boxing123 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Sometimes I wonder if people have lost all common sense these days. I am 32, and receive lots of emails from women in their 40's. I look at their profiles, and they are seeking a long term relationship. If they are 45, their age range might be something like 30-45. Do they really think younger, single men with no children want to settle down with a woman with children whom is almost 50? This works for men, but the trade off for women is financial security. And men can still have children. But these women expect men to look past age, even though they obviously cannot themselves? And of course they would not be offering the younger man financial security either.. Perhaps society has deluded women into thinking age does not matter to men. Sure, lots of younger guys will have sex with them, but for a long term relationship? Seems like fantasy land.
serial muse Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Sometimes I wonder if people have lost all common sense these days. I am 32, and receive lots of emails from women in their 40's. I look at their profiles, and they are seeking a long term relationship. If they are 45, their age range might be something like 30-45. Do they really think younger, single men with no children want to settle down with a woman with children whom is almost 50? This works for men, but the trade off for women is financial security. And men can still have children. But these women expect men to look past age, even though they obviously cannot themselves? And of course they would not be offering the younger man financial security either.. Perhaps society has deluded women into thinking age does not matter to men. Sure, lots of younger guys will have sex with them, but for a long term relationship? Seems like fantasy land. Actually, on the whole I'd say society is telling women that age matters greatly - and these women are bucking tradition by seeking out what they want, not what they're told to want. More power to them. If it doesn't work, of course, it doesn't work. But why shouldn't they give it a try, if they want to? And sometimes it does work out. A friend of mine who's turning 40 this year just married her 30-year-old boyfriend. He's desperately in love with her. So, you know. Don't assume anything.
Author boxing123 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 Well, the women are seeking a "long term relationship".. If I tell them they should seek a man their age or older, they just seem to get all offended. It seems very hypocritical. THEY DO NOT LIKE OLDER. THEY MAKE THIS CLEAR. However, they get offended when hearing I DO NOT WANT OLDER. Then I am a shallow guy who wants a young bimbo.. I should not notice age, although they do. I really have no idea what would be in the situation for me, unless I was pretty desperate to take on some middle aged woman's family.
serial muse Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Well, the women are seeking a "long term relationship".. If I tell them they should seek a man their age or older, they just seem to get all offended. It seems very hypocritical. THEY DO NOT LIKE OLDER. THEY MAKE THIS CLEAR. However, they get offended when hearing I DO NOT WANT OLDER. Then I am a shallow guy who wants a young bimbo.. I should not notice age, although they do. I really have no idea what would be in the situation for me, unless I was pretty desperate to take on some middle aged woman's family. Of course they get offended, because seriously, it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Worry about you! Look, when I did online dating, I was continually emailed by men in their 50s (I'm in my 30s) - even though I had stated my desired age range at basically plus/minus 5 years. They ignored that, because they wanted to and because it made perfect sense to them that I'd want to date them, given our respective ages. Didn't make sense to me, but hey. They, like you, were totally convinced of their rightness on the matter, saw zero hypocrisy in their own desires (they didn't want older either) and instead felt it necessary to tell me why I was wrong to want what I wanted. But the problem with that is that it was NOT THEIR PLACE TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO. Whatever, I told them no, and that was the end of it. You could just do the same. No need to preach to them about what they "ought" to do. Just worry about you! Don't be a busybody or a knowitall. Nobody likes that and you'll make exactly zero friends.
Author boxing123 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 No, if someone contacts me I have every right to say what I think. I would say no, you are too old for me. This seems to anger them. It happens almost daily. That's why I am wondering why women are so clueless. Ladies age matters!!!! Arrogant too. I should pass up having a family to take care of theirs..
blondesmiler Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 It happens almost daily. That's why I am wondering why women are so clueless. Yes thats right, its only just women that are clueless :rolleyes: BS trust me men are bad, possibly worse.
serial muse Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 No, if someone contacts me I have every right to say what I think. I would say no, you are too old for me. This seems to anger them. It happens almost daily. That's why I am wondering why women are so clueless. Ladies age matters!!!! Arrogant too. I should pass up having a family to take care of theirs.. Whatever. If you can't see why it's arrogant of you to tell people about their own business - when it has very little impact on you emotionally - then I can't help you. You've got blinders on. Seems like your primary object is to convince others that your worldview is the right one, not to find the person of your dreams. If you cared more about just finding the right person for you, you wouldn't worry about these other people so much.
Author boxing123 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 They can do what they want to do. I just say "You are too old for me", and they are offended. If they ask why, then I tell them. If they want a relationship it would be helpful for them to realize they are fishing in the wrong age group. I have common sense. I am not emailing 18 yr olds. If I was, then I would understand why I am being told I am too old.
Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 No need to get worked up about this. If they have any common sense at all, they'll realise sooner or later that this is futile, why do you care? When I was online, i received 50/50 from older and younger women. I've ocasionally wondered how edxactly the older ones imagine that could work, but, that's their problem. I dated an older woman in my 20s, and she was great, but eventually dumped her after realizing that I'd be severely compromising my quality of life in the long term for no apparent benefit. I'm sure older woman - younger man relaitonships and marriages happen occasionally, but for a whole sort of biological and social reasons it is more weird than not. Ashton Fugtcher - Demi Moore is not my idea of a sensible relaitonship. Michael Duglas - Katherine Zeta Jones - makes a lot more sense. The age per se is not necessarily a problem, but the baggage that comes with it.
missdependant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Worry about you! Seriously... is it any wonder why no one wants to date him?
stepka Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Well I'm one of those older women you're talking about, and I have no desire to date someone a lot younger than me--my stated age range is +/- 5 years, but I have been contacted by 22 yo, and a couple of men 10 years younger. I have to wonder why--I look exactly my age. I would rather have someone 5 years younger than 5 years older though, b/c women outlive men. Also, I won't date fat men or smokers, b/c he's likely to kick off sooner. I don't want to fall in love again and lose him 3 years later--no thanks.
BentSpine Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I would welcome letters from 50 y/o women and I'm a man in my mid thirties. I realise that's not your cup of tea. To each their own. With regards to stepka's post, I'm down to one year of love together will probably be worth the pain of parting.
clv0116 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 .... b/c women outlive men. From what I've been able to tell the difference really isn't much due to ONLY gender.
Lizzie60 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Perhaps society has deluded women into thinking age does not matter to men. Sure, lots of younger guys will have sex with them, but for a long term relationship? Seems like fantasy land. Hum... strange.. I also noticed that I get much more messages from men in their 20s... I agree that most of them are looking for sex.. but what if the woman is also looking for sex.. I agree though.. for long term.. they are in fantasy land.. same for older guys who think they can have a young chick 'till death do us part' yeah right.. keep on dreamin..
stepka Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 One of the reasons I wouldn't want to be with a much younger man is b/c all my floppy bits are pointed south and that would make me very self conscious.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 This works for men, but the trade off for women is financial security. And men can still have children. And of course they would not be offering the younger man financial security either.. How exactly does this work for men? An older, pudgy, receding guy in his 50's with a few kids is going to land a young hot smart attractive girl in her late 20's early 30's because he has financial security going for him? Ew. No way. I used to get messages from old farts all the time telling me they'd love to take care of me. That's it buddy? That's what you have to offer? yeah right. I'll take care of myself thank you. I'm going to let some old pig penetrate me for the rest of my life because he has a nice house and some bucks??? That's so never going to happen. If you don't like the oldies coming after you- just limit who can mail you on your profile. I finally put a cut off at 40- no one over 40 can message me.
Author boxing123 Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Funny.. So older men are automatically pudgy receding pigs, lol.. Well how do you think men view older women? Menopausal, cannot procreate, saggy, loose skin, etc. But older men with money ALWAYS have younger women fighting to be with them. Older men ALWAYS marry younger women. I could at least see the logic. I just do not see what an older woman has to offer a guy 15 years younger, except easy sex.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I just do not see what an older woman has to offer a guy 15 years younger, except easy sex. And similarily- I don't see what some older dude, 15 years older than I am has to offer me---- Sex isn't even a consideration!
Peter_pan Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I'll take care of myself thank you. I'm going to let some old pig penetrate me for the rest of my life because he has a nice house and some bucks??? That's so never going to happen. thats the first time in a while ive laughed at my screen thank you xx
Author boxing123 Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Dlish, you are what, about 40? Are you emailing men of 25 expecting a serious relationship?
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 wellll.... my MM is 11 years younger than me with no kids. I'm in my 40's with two teenage children. We also work together, and travel together for business. We think the same, work great together, fill the void in each other's lives, and he has no issue with my age ( I look 35 so I'm told ) and we are both comfortable financially. He is mature for his age, I've always thought so, and he doesn't want kids with his wife. Age doesn't matter, either way. My last bf was my age and could barely get it up and then had trouble keeping it up. My young MM is energetic to say the least, and can go 4 times in a night. I've never had it so good!
Author boxing123 Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 wellll.... my MM is 11 years younger than me with no kids. I'm in my 40's with two teenage children. We also work together, and travel together for business. We think the same, work great together, fill the void in each other's lives, and he has no issue with my age ( I look 35 so I'm told ) and we are both comfortable financially. He is mature for his age, I've always thought so, and he doesn't want kids with his wife. Age doesn't matter, either way. My last bf was my age and could barely get it up and then had trouble keeping it up. My young MM is energetic to say the least, and can go 4 times in a night. I've never had it so good! Yes, he just has sex with you...I agree, older women are for easy sex..
JerseyShortie Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 To the OP. You might think you are only putting older women down, but you are actually putting all women down. Because at some point in all our lives, we get older. Most women here, older or younger, or same age as you, will be turned off by your attitude towards women in general which is dominently reflected in your comments about older women. Not too sure what you are attempting to accomplish with this thread other then ranting about how much you don't think women of a certain age should attempt to date? Or attempt to date younger men just for the simple fact that they are older. I can't tell you how many men I had message me when I did online dating that were older then my age range or had children even though those were two things I stated my opinion on. I even had guys lie to me about their age until that either came out one way or another. Or the classic "I feel young at heart" line they use which they think will sway my opinion to date older men.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Well, do men in their 50's really think that some woman in her 20's would want a relationship with them? A man that's getting close to retirement of interest to a woman that is just starting out in a career and looking to possibly start a family? I think it's one of those things - throw out a bunch of bait and see if you get any bites.
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