Jessica09 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I have this guy friend, we hang out all the time and we have so much fun. one day I finally told him I was starting to have feelings for him, he told me we was feeling the same way. Now when we hang out we kiss and act like we are together, he even calls me his girl. but he said that we cant have sex cuz he stops being interested in girls after he had sex with them, he told me that he doesn't want to screw things but cuz he really likes me. Is he just playing games or is he being real??
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I'd take it as a compliment. He knows he's into you more than that and doesn't want to turn it into "just sex." Sounds like he's being real to me.
Geishawhelk Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 So hang on - let me get this straight. You two are exclusive and dating. He doesn't want to have sex with you, because every girl he's ever dated, he's lost interest in. So he wants basically, a sexless/celibate relationship with you. How does he figure marriage will fit into this scenario? I know - I'm not saying you two have even thought of the M word. I'm just asking, if following his logic - there actually is any....? And I take it you don't see things the same way? There's a hidden issue here. He needs counselling. He needs to get to the bottom of this. Talking of bottoms - might he be gay?
carhill Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Conquest junkie. Sounds experienced. Ask him how many girls he's lost interest in. Maybe he'll just keep effing until the passion doesn't go away. A man who wants to grow a relationship does not talk like this. His actions tell you he's interested and wants to take his time. This guy's a BS'er, IMO.
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I agree with soulsearch. I don't think he needs counseling or "all that". I think it's a problem that many guys face. There is certainly a difference between effing and making love. If he's not ready for the latter, then he's going to do the former, and he will lose interest. It's not that he can't have sex with you, it's just that maybe you need to wait a little while longer. I think it's funny, if the shoe was on the other foot, if it was a girl that wanted to wait, no one would say she needs counseling or there is something wrong with her. And by the language you used, it sounds like this isn't even serious yet. He's your "guy friend" and you "hang out" and "act like" you are together. You just need to wait. If you can't then you'll just be another notch on the belt.
carhill Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 OP, tip: Does he ask you what YOU want? If so, how does that conversation go?
Author Jessica09 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 So hang on - let me get this straight. You two are exclusive and dating. He doesn't want to have sex with you, because every girl he's ever dated, he's lost interest in. So he wants basically, a sexless/celibate relationship with you. How does he figure marriage will fit into this scenario? I know - I'm not saying you two have even thought of the M word. I'm just asking, if following his logic - there actually is any....? And I take it you don't see things the same way? There's a hidden issue here. He needs counselling. He needs to get to the bottom of this. Talking of bottoms - might he be gay? I don't think hes gay, cuz when we hang out hes all over me and wants to have sex with me but wont.
miss-jem-bishop Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I have this guy friend, we hang out all the time and we have so much fun. one day I finally told him I was starting to have feelings for him, he told me we was feeling the same way. Now when we hang out we kiss and act like we are together, he even calls me his girl. but he said that we cant have sex cuz he stops being interested in girls after he had sex with them, he told me that he doesn't want to screw things but cuz he really likes me. Is he just playing games or is he being real?? Well Personally I Think He Is being Real It Takes Alot For A Guy To Admit Something like That! But If You Feel He Is Playing Games And Your Close You Should Talk Too Him Im Sure He Would Understand! Hope I Helped xx
Awesome84 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 If he's not gay.. then I'd say he's being real. Just don't think about the sex. Do you like him more than physical attraction? If so, then it shouldn't be a problem for you. Wait until you guys are 'exclusive'. Or maybe you should have that exclusive talk with him.
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