UCLAMike Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Dated a girl for a year. Broke up 7 months ago. Periods of NC. Broke NC 2 times. Went back to NC, has been a week. I went through so many different phases and cycles of this whole thing. It's my first love/gf/breakup whatever. But tonight I wanted to make a post which I haven't in a while. I made tremendous progress. I don't want her back. She is like poison in my life and I have accepted that it's over. I am even starting to think I dodged a bullet with this girl. But I can't help but be so angry. According to our last conversation week ago, she said she "fell out of love with me" because of my negative personality. But before this she has given me so many different reasons for the break up I was so confused. Why do people do this? Fall out of love then keep it going, talking about marriage and moving in. A week later, when I proposed her in a very bad manner because something serious came up (at the time it seemed serious) she broke up with me right then and there. She blamed me for the break up and put all the guilt on me. But in reality it was just a last straw that broke and she had already moved on way before that. 3 months after, she is with a new boyfriend and got exclusive with him right away. Ever since we broke up, she treated me like a stalker and a stranger: cold, rude, and completely indifferent like I'm a plague. Why couldn't she just break up with me then and there or at least talk to me about it? At least give me a chance to speak to her before breaking up? She broke up with me via text message, has she has done this twice before, and we never even had a mature conversation about it afterward. Why do they drop this bomb on people without ever considering the other? I know she never really loved me, you can't do this to people you actually loved. This whole time, up until week ago, I thought she still loved me but was just mad at me for things I did. She wasn't honest with me and totally wasted my time and life. I missed out on so many things in life because I was so heart broken over a B that decided to seek after greener pasture. I'm just really angry. This whole relationship experience sucked and my first love experience was so terrible. Good lesson learned though on how to spot shady girls with issues. But it doesn't help the fact that this girl still sucks. At least I'm moving on. I'd rather move on being mad at who she really turned out to be than pining and depressed over her. What a real b****!
Geishawhelk Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 You have to accept part of the responsibility here. You don't say who broke NC, but it takes two to tango, buddy. If you refuse point blank to absolutely respond in any way whatsoever to her approaches, and blank her off 100%, 100% fo the time, 100% across the board - then she's just pissing in the wind, isn't she? part of the resonsibility for getting over stuff like this, lies with you. Don't blame her across the whole issue. take responsibility for your actions, and stop doing what kills you. No e-mails, no texts, no IM, no phone messages, no facebook, no msopace, no meeting NO THING!! Either from you, or to you. Shut it all down. Move on and forget it. Finito.
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