cacarter1129 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Ok, so I have a little story to tell to help me with this question so I apologize if its a little long. Well first off I am an 18 yr old senior in high school. Only been on one date and no relationships, pretty sad life huh? . Anyways... about 6 months ago this really pretty girl started working at my job and I did not really talk to her much or have any sort of interest in her at all, and lets emphasize the the talk part, I hardly ever talked to her at work. Then in January she started going to my school, but I still did not pay attention to her too much nor did I talk to her much. Then I don't know what is was, but in the middle of Feb I began to notice her and started to like her slowly. Of course since I have never had much experience with girls I was too nervous to talk to her, but I saw her like every single second at school and we said nothing to each other. Finally at work my friend and I were talking and she walked over to my department to give us stuff she found in her department. My friend said hi to her, but I didn't say anything. Then she asked me something about school, and my friend was like "You guys go to the same school?" I said yup and she said "Yeah but he never talks to me at school." She said it jokingly though. Then I jsut told her sorry, but I am a really busy guy, with a smile on my face. After that I began to make small efforts to talk to her starting on facebook. I would see her on facebook, I would make small approaches and say things like whats up? I would even ask her things like how was your day? Or what are you up to today? You know small talk. I wouldn't talk to her long though just because I was trying to keep the convo short and sweet, trying to make it seem I was just wondering and nothing more. Although I began talking to her on facebook I still never talked to her at school, in person. I thought that it was sort of a good idea like that because it would make her wonder why I was talking to her on facebook, but not at school you know? Yet I felt like I should start to get closer to her so I tried. At school she was always with her 2 best friends, therefore it was always hard to get her alone, so I thought why not get to know her friends, I was friends with her friends on facebook before I even knew her, but I never talked to her friends ever. So I hopped on facebook one night and saw her friends were on and I began talking to them every single day and they began to talk to me more and began to notice my existance, and I ended up telling her friends that I liked her. NOW they didn't tell her that I liked her, but they said I should try talking to her more, which was a struggle, because I am no good at talking to girls in person, girls I like anyways... So I saw the girl I like all day long, but didn't utter out a single word! I was so angry! So at the end of the day I went to the cafeteria to think about how stupid I was for not saying a word. And then five minutes later she pops in the cafeteria. Of course she didn't come over to me or anything, but she made eye contact with me, so I smiled and called her over. So we talked in person for 15 minutes and it was great. Then I left to go home because my bus was waiting outside. The next day it was the same thing, I saw her all day didn't say a word, and at the end of the day I sat down at the cafeteria and she arrived again, but before she came over to me she kept looking around as if she were looking for someone else, but we talked again for a good 15 minutes and then I left to get on the bus. THEN the next day I saw her all day again, not a word, went to the cafeteria at the end of the day and she came to my table, looked at me, and then I just asked if she wanted to walk around for 15 minutes and she agreed. Then yesterday, which was Friday, I saw her all day again, went to the cafeteria at the end of the day, and I saw her but she didn't stop to say hi to me or anything, I saw her walking with her friends... so there wasn't much I could do. Everytime I saw her though or when she was talking to me she never seemed thrilled or excited, but when she was with her friends she seemed happy and laughed a lot more then when she was with me. Now I am sorry that was a long story, but I want your input, boy and girls. Do you think I am doing the right thing? Do you think I am making progress? And overall do you think she MIGHT be interested? It's really hard to tell. But I really want feed back. Thanks.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 It's really hard to tell if she's interested in more than anything but friendship. What do you guys talk about? Does she carry the conversation as much as you do or do you end up having to drag it out of her? How's her body language? Does she lean into you at all? Look in your eyes a lot? Or is she kind of looking around while you're talking to her like she's planning her escape? So far the interaction seems very generic and vanilla. No clue what she's feeling - if anything. But yeah - making progress. Keep talking to her. What's hard about just saying, "Hello, how are you?" when you're seeing her all day at school? You don't have to be some incredibly skilled linguist all the time. Say SOMETHING that'll grab her attention - that's all that matters.
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