12ape Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Help, shy girl and I really like her..? Well, I have been talking to this girl for about 2 weeks now. On MSN/Face book/Text messages etc, and we get on reasonably well we are both quite flirty. Well, I met up with her Friday night and she was with her friends at a GIG.. She was very "shy" around me when she saw me/came over and said "Hi" and everything. I'm a little shy myself, and I get a little bit "gutty and quite" when her friends are around her etc. It seems like I can only really talk to her 1on1 for now, and she is like she wants to be around her friends and talk. So literally we Said "hi" on friday, had a little talk about things. Hugged her once, said goodnight. He friends told me that she talks about me "alot" at school/college. And that she likes me, but she is very shy around me.... But when we talk on msn/facebook/txt she seems fine. She even said that she misses talking to me, and was sorry for leaving early on Friday night. So we text's the morning after, the usual how are you etc.. Asking questions out of randomness. She said she was in the city today, and that after she wanted to meet up with me for a "walk/stroll" and talk. She knows she is shy around me, and I get a little shy because she is shy... You see the problem? Well, I met up with her at around 7 today up the town Centre and I met her friends, I said "hi" how you doing, what you been up too ?, get anything nice.. You know being the casual type of person.. Her friends are talkative, once spoken too. So I tried to spark up a conversation with the "shy girl" I like and she just seems to feel awkward around me, and im finding it really tough to say something/interact with her so I can gain her trust.. So one of her friends had to go, so we walked her back to the taxi drop off point until she went. Then we decided to goto the Park, so we walked to the park, gently talking/confronting her about what to talk about. Once we got to the park, we went to the swings.. Sat down and started to talk about things. Her other friend, had to use the phone so she wondered off leaving us 2 on the swings, awkward I know! But I really want to get to know this girl and become more than a friend to her. So I said, like " how you doing, bought anything nice today? " Her replying blankly and dull like "yeah, I got this and that". Being shy. After a bit of talking, I asked her.. How Do I get to know you more, how can I gain your trust so we can talk... She didn't really know, and kept being shy... Anyway, her friend came back and she needed to go home. So we walked back to the "shy girls(who i like)" house and we went in to be picked up / talk. After her friend went, it was just me and her.. In literally, utter silence. So I said " Would you like to go upstairs, and talk a bit" because her brother was in the room at the time. And she was like " You have seen what my room is like, a compelte mess " Let's talk out in the kitchen. So we walked to the kitchen and I said something like, " You are quite shy I can see, would you like a hug " and she literally walked into my arms and had a little hug.. So I said I should be moving on home as it is getting late, so I got my stuff and said goodbye, and hugged her again to say good-bye. She was still being shy.. I wasn't quite sure at the time, and I said " Could I do something else" and she was like " no" I was like ok (Smiled) and said talk to you later ill let you know when I'm home. So I started to walk home, and she text me saying "what did you want to do" I replied " I wanted to peck you on the cheek x", no response... When I got home I told her I was home, logged onto msn and said Me: Hey, did you get my text's Her: yup Me : Alright Me: Sorry if I, confronted you a bit.. I don't want you to feel iffy around me x I thank you for letting me come out tonight .. x Her: loooooooooooool Me: ?? Her: Just funny Me:Ok, im heading for the shower.. talk to you later x Her: i wont be on so bye Me: :] bye bye x Her: Bye *after shower* Text: Me: You okay? NO RESPONSE Me: Night, talk to you later x NO RESPONSE (IM STUCK HERE NOW WRITING IT OUT, now I feel sick and tired) Have I blown it? I really like this shy girl, and I don't want her to be shy around me.. Iv'e confronted her too much and I don't know what to do... I really like her, and she said to her friends and myself that she really likes me also... Did I push it too far? Have I lost her? Thanks, Sam x
yonex Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Holy hell...decent essay! I think that its good that you offered a hug because some girls really like to be hugged and like to cuddle . Sometimes I move to slow on them and regret it later on...but yea you maybe should have waited a bit longer before asking her if you could kiss her on her cheek. You should be able to tell from her body language if she wanted to kiss you or do something more with you. Personally I suck at reading body language and I think messed up plenty of times and didn't make a move when I was suppose to. Just remember ladies are around 10x better at reading body language then men. I would wait it out a couple days and see what happends next. How old are you anyways?
Author 12ape Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Shes 17, had many boyfriends in the past I'm 18, only had 1 serious relationship of 4 years.
yonex Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Yea if she has been many relationships already you might be kinda a little awkward with her I don't know. Maybe try and open up with her more and learn more about her. Or she just may be the shy type which you gotta work around that.
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