yonex Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Hey I was talking with this girl a while ago. I want to call her up and speak with her but I need to know what to say when she asks how I got her number since she didn't give it to me. Honesty, I think here wont help me.
carhill Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 If you want to stimulate her emotions, tell her you got it off the bathroom wall Seriously, if she asks, merely tell her you were interested enough in talking to her to find out her number. If she presses, just say "I have my ways" with a bit of a chuckle. Then, change the subject with a bit of flirtatious banter. Remember, you're just talking on the phone, not proposing marriage. Take a chill pill
Sam Spade Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Hey I was talking with this girl a while ago. I want to call her up and speak with her but I need to know what to say when she asks how I got her number since she didn't give it to me. Honesty, I think here wont help me. Tell her you got it from an AIDS walk list.
Author yonex Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Yea I gotta plan this right. Just wondering cause my friend called some chick and it didnt work for him when she didn't give him her number.
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 It would immediately freak me out if a guy did this and I wouldn't like it. How did you get her number??? Maybe we can figure out a different way to get in touch with her. Do you know someone that knows her? Can you friend her on facebook or something? These are only my personal thoughts- (and it has happened to me a couple times). I got weirded out. If you have a mutual friend- they can ask her if it's okay to give you her number. I wouldn't do the call out of the blue.
dreamergrl Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I'm with D-lish, it would freak me out. Unless I'm already diggin the guy, and my friend knew it, slipped him the number. How did you get her digits?
Author yonex Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 I would have to kill you if I told you how I got her number....just joking. She added me on myspace and you know were in the 21st century and its not that hard to find peoples numbers. I did do a bit of searching for it I'm not gonna lie. But its not like I'm that much of a stranger like I hanged out with her a few times and she knows me. If I ask her on myspace I dunno beacuse I'll be turned down for sure I think.
dreamergrl Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I would have to kill you if I told you how I got her number....just joking. She added me on myspace and you know were in the 21st century and its not that hard to find peoples numbers. I did do a bit of searching for it I'm not gonna lie. But its not like I'm that much of a stranger like I hanged out with her a few times and she knows me. If I ask her on myspace I dunno beacuse I'll be turned down for sure I think. I wouldn't like this. If I knew you and hung out with you a few times, by then I'd give you my number if I wanted you to have it.
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I would have to kill you if I told you how I got her number....just joking. She added me on myspace and you know were in the 21st century and its not that hard to find peoples numbers. I did do a bit of searching for it I'm not gonna lie. But its not like I'm that much of a stranger like I hanged out with her a few times and she knows me. If I ask her on myspace I dunno beacuse I'll be turned down for sure I think. What makes you think that? After all- she added you as a friend. If you are sure she'd turn you asking on myspace- why would it be any different over the phone? Start a private chat with her on myspace- feel it out... see if you get a vibe she is interested- then ask for her digits.
Author yonex Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 yea I may do that or call her if I can think of good thing to say.
D-Lish Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 yea I may do that or call her if I can think of good thing to say. There is only one thing to say if you call. "I did a search for your number after not knowing you well". Go ahead and call if you want. It would (and has) creeped me out when someone has done this to me. You've got two girls telling you the same thing so far. Maybe some more females need to weigh in on this.
Author yonex Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 yea its proably kinda stalker creepy but thats not the only thing that I can come up with. Many other things can be said like making up some kind of good exuse or something along those lines. I know honesty is key here but sometimes you have to bend the truth if you want something.
Citizen Erased Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Send her a message on Myspace, she is less likely to say yes to you if you call her in these circumstances IMO.
dreamergrl Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Am I really the only one who thinks that if they've hung out before and have each other on facebook that she'd by now offer her number if she was interested?
Curious-One Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Am I really the only one who thinks that if they've hung out before and have each other on facebook that she'd by now offer her number if she was interested? In my experience girls dont just offer their numbers to guys in most cases. I have had only one girl give me her number without me asking for it... for the rest i have had to ask for the number. Dont just call her up, that will freak her out IMO. I would ask for the number on myspace which is a 50-50 chance she will give it to you. It kinda shows low confidence which hurts your game. Best thing to say to a girl when you are hanging out with her is.... You seem like a cool girl , whats your number and ill give you a call. Oh btw dont ever ask Can i have your number? it seems needy
D-Lish Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Send her a message on Myspace, she is less likely to say yes to you if you call her in these circumstances IMO. Agreed, especially because of the creepy factor... "How the **** did you get my number" is what would go through my head. And honestly- what "other" excuse can you use to say you got her number? You're good at guessing? Chat with her on myspace a little through PM and then ask for the number. It WILL come off as stalkerish if you call her out of the blue.
carhill Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 OP, by "talking with this girl" do you mean you have met her personally and talked with her? If yes, call her up. If she does dig you, bonus. If not, nothing lost. Move on
D-Lish Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 OP, by "talking with this girl" do you mean you have met her personally and talked with her? If yes, call her up. If she does dig you, bonus. If not, nothing lost. Move on Bad advice.... she has never given him her number. That MUST occur before he calls- her agreeing to giving her number (or knowing about it)... Otherwise- he WILL come off as a stalker. Even if she is slightly interested- the unsolicited phone call will probably turn her right off. By playing it cool, flirting on Myspace a bit first- he can develop something- learn something about her. No offense- but you are guys trying to figure out how a girl will react- all the girls have said "don't do it".... what does that tell you?
carhill Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 It tells me I don't listen to what women say, but rather how they act. I listened to women for years and had many great female friends and lived alone
Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 No offense, but I think most girls are overreacting a bit here. If a guy calls you, he likes you, he is not calling you to cut your head off and write cryptic messages in your blood on your bedroom wall, no matter how he got your number. I certainly don't advocate illegal stalking activities, but come on, let's dial the drama down, just a bit. 3...2...1... until the uproar begins.
Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 It tells me I don't listen to what women say, but rather how they act. I listened to women for years and had many great female friends and lived alone I wish Carhil was my daddy (and Woogle - my grumpy but generally loveable uncle).
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 personally, I don't see what the big deal is. I think a nickname like "the predator" or "the telemarketer" sounds kind of cool.
Author yonex Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 hmm getting some mixed views here. Sample call: me: hey steph how are ya? This is so and so her: oh hi how did you get my number me:Oh I just was lurking around and I came across it. ...I dont like how this could turn out!
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 yeah I would ask you if you could please put me on the do not call list... anyway... myspace sucks. or I'm old fashioned or something. maybe you should find out something like where she works? then depending on where, it might seem like you bump into her on chance. but then you need a little charm to get the digits, but at least its more fun.
Author yonex Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I think I know where she goes to school. I rather long bus ride and thats stalking!
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