shadowsfall Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I started dating again recently after about a 9 month break from my last breakup. The problem I'm having now is that I don't appreciate any kind of romantic affection at all like I used too. In fact any time one of these girls show's me in the slightest bit that she likes me I immediately detach and run away (not literally right then and there, but the next day). It's crazy because this can be someone who I really liked initially, but then at the slightest incident of her trying to hold my hand or any verbal affection I become very apprehensive about continuing things further. I realize these things are going to come up in just about any relationship so I can't completely avoid them or curb the girl every single time. It seems as though I want a girl who almost shows me little to no emotional/romantic interest other then sex, and even then I prefer it not to be romantic. I realize this can be the result of at least a few different issues. The first possibly being that I'm just not ready to date yet. Two, that now subconsciously I lack self-esteem and can't possibly understand why someone would ever want to be with me or reciprocate feelings (although I'm fairly self-confident). OR three, I've evolved into a heartless prick. And I do understand the psychological relevance of the "wanting what you can't have" phenomena. So maybe just as soon as the chase stops for me, so does my interest? Anyway, what do you guys think?
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