Sinistral Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Ok, so I started dating this beautiful, I mean beautiful girl, and we have been together for over a year, but a few days ago she dumped me cause she felt like I wasn’t allowing her to breathe, and how I didn’t like that she hung out with guy friends. She says that if there’s any hope she needs space and time. But how will she notice my changing ways if she is spaced from me? She came over today to talk but shortly had to leave because everything reminded her of being with me and she started crying, so I brought her home right away. This hurts so bad and I need her back. We have been through so much, she is like a family member to me and my parents. It’s like being in a plane with a 50% chance of crashing, but not knowing it. Please help, whats going on? what should I do? The couple times she was here after the breakup, she liked to tickle me and was a bit playful, she also keeps giving me hugs. She txt me once in a while. There was no sign of hating me, she told me she still loves me and still has feeling for me, but how do I know she isn’t trying to forget me while were away? Am I just being paranoid? She says she is sick of crying and feeling like Im always gonna be mad at her for some reason and doesn’t like that feeling. I told her today, that it’s a matter of believing me that this has changed me. And I wanna take care of you and love you forever, and if you were to cry Its gonna be cause your happy. She started to cry, but then she said she had to go cause she needs space and being here wasn’t helping, I don’t get it??!!
Author Sinistral Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Yeah I get a feeling by her not knowing if she wants me back or not, ONTOP of her kinda flirting and being friendly, isnt right. Any idea on what she can be leaning towards judging by the given facts?
Excellent Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Cut contact. This is exactly what my ex did to me. Breaking up, and still she kept hanging around. Using me to get over me. It's hard isn't it? You look at her, and you see no interest in there anymore. Still, they do exactly the same as they did when you where together, except there is no more kissing, no more "i love you" that you can hear is said truthfully, no more sex. The best thing you can do is to cut all contact with her, don't answer her calls, texts, nothing. Let her truly miss you. When and if she is, she WILL let you know, without beating around the bush. Yeah it hurts like hell, but it helps, trust me. Seeing her, being around her, but not getting to do what you really want to do will only hurt you more.
miss-jem-bishop Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Ok, so I started dating this beautiful, I mean beautiful girl, and we have been together for over a year, but a few days ago she dumped me cause she felt like I wasn’t allowing her to breathe, and how I didn’t like that she hung out with guy friends. She says that if there’s any hope she needs space and time. But how will she notice my changing ways if she is spaced from me? She came over today to talk but shortly had to leave because everything reminded her of being with me and she started crying, so I brought her home right away. This hurts so bad and I need her back. We have been through so much, she is like a family member to me and my parents. It’s like being in a plane with a 50% chance of crashing, but not knowing it. Please help, whats going on? what should I do? The couple times she was here after the breakup, she liked to tickle me and was a bit playful, she also keeps giving me hugs. She txt me once in a while. There was no sign of hating me, she told me she still loves me and still has feeling for me, but how do I know she isn’t trying to forget me while were away? Am I just being paranoid? She says she is sick of crying and feeling like Im always gonna be mad at her for some reason and doesn’t like that feeling. I told her today, that it’s a matter of believing me that this has changed me. And I wanna take care of you and love you forever, and if you were to cry Its gonna be cause your happy. She started to cry, but then she said she had to go cause she needs space and being here wasn’t helping, I don’t get it??!! guy friends to a girl ... well we need them! i understand its not nice but you should trust her because if u dnt have trust u dnt have anything! so you gotta explain that you understnd bout the guy thing. us girls are confusing and even i can admit.. it takes alot to admit it too!! but anyway ... maybe an email or letter would maybe make her see what u feel and mean... explain that u know she has guy mates and u dnt exspect her to drop them,.... try not to be too soppy bout it all, as frm past exprience it dosent help... say you love her more than anything and say we have made it this far so we can make it further! say you dont want her to cry you want her to be happy! and that you are always here if she needs her also remind her bout some good times u shared together that u know she enjoyed ... it will make her think abit bout what she has let go of! maybe she does need time .. make sure ur not always contacting her every day let have her abit of time to miss you .. because if ur there every day or calling/texting her everyday she is not gonna know what its like to be without you! ... hope i helped! keep smiling x
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