9Lives Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Recently, I went to this happy hour bar and it was really nice. I was alone and I probably will be getting out by myself often because I dont have that many friends that get out and mingle. When you go to a bar or club or social events by yourself, how do you mingle with men and women without stepping on toes or looking desperate or standing there by yourself looking crazy..that kind of stuff. I know I will be doing it often so I am trying be cool with it
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Recently, I went to this happy hour bar and it was really nice. I was alone and I probably will be getting out by myself often because I dont have that many friends that get out and mingle. When you go to a bar or club or social events by yourself, how do you mingle with men and women without stepping on toes or looking desperate or standing there by yourself looking crazy..that kind of stuff. I know I will be doing it often so I am trying be cool with it I did that everyday when I was on vacation alone. Somehow, being on vacation makes you look at going out alone differently. Trust me- a woman out alone.... You'll attract men, a lot of men. Since you're alone, obviously you'll sit at the bar. You don't have to justify anything to anyone- you're just stopping by after a long day of work. How much attention you want can also depend on how you dress! You can get the right or wrong attention from that.
Sam Spade Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 How much attention you want can also depend on how you dress! You can get the right or wrong attention from that. Given a choice, I'd always chose the wrong kind of attention.
Author 9Lives Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 I did that everyday when I was on vacation alone. Somehow, being on vacation makes you look at going out alone differently. Trust me- a woman out alone.... You'll attract men, a lot of men. Since you're alone, obviously you'll sit at the bar. You don't have to justify anything to anyone- you're just stopping by after a long day of work. How much attention you want can also depend on how you dress! You can get the right or wrong attention from that. that cool. Im afraid I will be sitting at the bar and no one will come talk to me. I want to meet people not be alone
Yamaha Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Trust me- a woman out alone.... You'll attract men, a lot of men. A women out alone will usually tell a man she is looking for a hook up. May or may not be true but a man will interpret it as an invatation for company.
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 A women out alone will usually tell a man she is looking for a hook up. May or may not be true but a man will interpret it as an invatation for company. Unfortunately- you are right about that. It does give that impression. When I was in florida, I would grab lunch and dinner at the bar... and it would be under a minute before a swarm would close in. It was annoying as hell- but it's just the way it is when you're a woman out alone. I don't think you have to worry at all about getting approached.
Lucky_One Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 You can always carry a book or magazine with you. If there is no one to talk to around, then you can have something to do without looking lonely. And if someone is talking to you that you want to go away, then you just say "Excuse me, I need to finish this article" and start to read again and block them out.
Author 9Lives Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 You can always carry a book or magazine with you. If there is no one to talk to around, then you can have something to do without looking lonely. And if someone is talking to you that you want to go away, then you just say "Excuse me, I need to finish this article" and start to read again and block them out. or you can pull out your phone and say excuse me. I have to take this call and it is going to be a while
amymarieca Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I go out alone a lot for the same reason you do. I don't really find it awkward because I have a strong enough personality to be able to handle it. I usually go to places where I am comfortable being alone, like a jazz club. I do get approached a lot by men, but I simply turn them down if I am not interested. As far as talking to other people- I tend to just make small talk, like commenting on the music, or asking them what they are drinking. If you have a laid back kind of personality, you won't come across as desperate. I've met several people this way!
Author 9Lives Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I go out alone a lot for the same reason you do. I don't really find it awkward because I have a strong enough personality to be able to handle it. I usually go to places where I am comfortable being alone, like a jazz club. I do get approached a lot by men, but I simply turn them down if I am not interested. As far as talking to other people- I tend to just make small talk, like commenting on the music, or asking them what they are drinking. If you have a laid back kind of personality, you won't come across as desperate. I've met several people this way! well this is great!!! I am kinda new to doing it but I think I will do it more often. I am cool but I want to make sure I am not doing anything stupid
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 that's a good question. I don't go anywhere for fun by myself. maybe I should learn.
stepka Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Thanks for asking this question--I've been wondering the same thing myself.
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