ruggy Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 So I am meeting this woman tonight as a first date for movies and dinner. I think we hit it of on the tel. Spoke from 8:00 pm Thursday til 3:00 am Friday (we've never met yet - seen pictures but never met). Asked me to call and wake her at 8:00 AM. I did and got ready for work. She called me at 3:00 to say hi. We spoke for a half hour then I went back to work. Was going to call her again (we seem to enjoy talking to eachother) last night, but did not want to seem too needy. We are both in our mid 30's. Actually, she's 3 years older, but not quite 34. Anyway, I was thinking. Walking from the movies to dinner to attempt to hold hands walking. Not sure how to exactly do this. Never was very big on it. Don't want to look like a total noob. Any suggestions?
Die Hard Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I personally don't go for holding hands on the first or even the second date. I save that for the right time. It's just a personal thing though. I just don't feel comfortable holding hands early on. It seems contrived to me. I hold hands as a way of showing affection and a little intimacy and to me personally that doesn't work well on first and second dates, etc.. If you're looking for a way to do it: wait until you're crossing the street with her and lightly hold on to her forearm as you cross. When you get to the other side slide your hand down to her hand and hold on and see what happens.
blondesmiler Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 If you feel you'd like too when the time comes, a simple "would it be ok if we held hands" or "I know this sounds really daft/silly but can I hold your hand as we walk" ~ keep it light hearted, don't make a massive deal out of it, some girls will love it some girls won't just because its a first date and they might not feel comfortable ~ yet!
Die Hard Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I'm against asking if you can hold their hand. That's like asking if you can kiss them. If it feels right just go for it man. Asking has the potential to make it awkward. Just my opinion though.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I would wait it might make her uncomfortable on the 1st date not to mention the 1st time even meeting each other on top of that. But if you feel the need I agree with blondesmiler def keep it lighthearted Congrats on the date by the way Ive been peeping at your threads hope it all works out for you guys...
Author ruggy Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Yea, me too. She did say on the phone that she feels this connection. I guess that was why we spoke for seven hours straight. Don't know really what that means. Here's hoping it is not another waste of time.
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