EPD Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Why is it, after a breakup, ok for you to see someone else, but when your ex starts dating, it cuts like a knife? My ex and I broke up four months ago. I started seeing someone else afterward, not really sure where that's going. I don't see him that much, usually on weekends. (It's not going badly really, just not where I thought it would go.) My ex was hurt by me moving on; he has been sitting at home brooding about it for quite a while. But now he's met someone and as of this week seems to spend a lot of time with her. I miss my ex to pieces and not being with him has torn me apart, but being with him tore me up more. He wants me back but we can't be together because the things he did hurt me too much and I just can't do it anymore, no matter how much I love him. I know I should just eat it and be happy for him because I'm seeing someone else too. Why does this hurt so bad? I'm so depressed by it.
Lishy Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 What did he do that makes it impossible to go back may I ask?
Author EPD Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 What did he do that makes it impossible to go back may I ask? Alcoholic and cheater. Maybe my love for him is based on the good times and the good qualities that he has, but the bad parts make it an impossible situation for me to tolerate anymore.
Lishy Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I agree that you miss what you DID have in the beginning and not what your actually had, if that makes sense! Who needs a cheating alchi? not you baby! Maybe you are just feeling that the new guy is not as into you as you would like and miss how the ex seemed more into you. Whatever the reason you are best rid of your ex and dont feel jealous as his new girlfriend will have to go through what you did too
Geishawhelk Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 You broke up for the wrong reason. I.e, that you needed to. Not because you wanted to. Hence, you never fell out of love with the guy, you fell out of love with what he was doing. You are not over him. You swung into a new relationship but - you know what? It's not working. You're looking for an emotional prop, and this guy's a rebound victim. You're really not as into him as you should be, or would like to be. That's unfair on him. You need to cut this one too..... You need time to put things into perspective, know you did the right thing, and know that whatever is new in his life, will either work or it won't because he may either shape up, or break it, like he broke you. You need time on your own.
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