Men stay attractive longer then women and Peek later in life

[clv0116]

I've dated older men. They took me to nice places, bought me pretty things and we had fun. But I never wanted to completely settle down with them. When they wanted to, the relationship stopped.

 

Well every young woman I've dated more than briefly has gotten around to directly or obliquely asking how long it would be before I would be interested in marrying them.

 

 

Your right, you are talking crazy because I never said someone should be with someone when they are different from what they want. However, you are preaching about "realistic expectations" and you being a "late bloomer" and condemning women for their choices while you pat yourself on the back for yours and give yourself all kinds of leeway.

 

I don't condemn them, I just won't ever consider marrying one.

 

 

You have made life choices for yourself that you are condemning women for doing the same. Where you in a relationship where you wanted to settle down and the lady didn't?

 

No. I've seen it plenty though.

 

 

Didn't you say earlier your life choices didn't work out how you had expected? Who are you to make the comment that you know what is best for another, for a woman, to make the arrogant comment that it must be because of unrealistic expecations?

 

Just reporting what I see here and in life.

 

 

Ahhh, the route of it all. How dare a woman reject a man!

 

Root?

 

 

We get it. You deserve love and companionship despite the time it took you to work out your life and women don't. We get it. Don't worry, after hearing the venom some of you guys have for women for taking the time to live there lives, just as *you* have, I don't see alot of women wanting to run into those guys arms or run to the alter. A dog would show more faith and partnership.

 

I think cats are the traditional alternative, but you're on the right track.

[JerseyShortie]

You're response was lacking in depth. In the newspaper biz, we call it "Fluff".

[burning 4 revenge]

Women were way more interested in me 10 years ago when i was 24 than they are now

 

I think if I had a lot of money it would be different, but women have expectations of status as you lose hair and looks

[clv0116]

You're response was lacking in depth. In the newspaper biz, we call it "Fluff".

 

Delivery? I can't imagine you as a writer.

[clv0116]

.... t women have expectations of status as you lose hair and looks

 

Absolutely. I'm not being intentionally harsh here, but I've heard more than once that if a guy doesn't have a career together by my age he's a loser. I never said men don't age, just that women are wired to care about other things as well and if a guy takes care to minimize the downside and optimize the upside his dating life can actually improve with time.

[Nicodaemos]

Nah, women are always beautiful, regardless. Age, size, color, hair, none of that matters. Women are beautiful. Now, I may have a biased opinion on that, being a guy, but I just dont find men attractive at all. If I want to see another guy, I look in a mirror. Not to say that I cant appreciate a handsom man, I can do, and can even comment out loud, around men and women, that a random guy may look handsome.

 

With women typically having longer hair, well, I guess I am one of those guys that go the other way. Its just starting to get past my shoulders, but I have seen a few women that have shorter hair.

 

More commonly , it seems that people, as they get older, they have less and less issues with age. It becomes more about behavior, and personality, than looks and age. Age has less and less of a bearing on how people act as they get older it seems. People dont slow down and play shuffle board because they actually want to, its because they have to. Thier bodies cant take the strain of activities in thier younger years. I recently lost a woman that acted more like a 18-20 year old teen than the 29 she actually was. No, she didnt always act that way, but nearly so.

 

But what kind of attractive are we talking here. Physically, mentally, maybe how well off someone is? It seems everyone instantly goes right to the physical attributes, with very little serious discussion about the rest, (not that half of this is serious anyway).

 

IMO, women stay more attractive.

[sam light]

This is one of those classic threads. Reminds me of the "men over 35 smell bad" thread.

 

Depending on the individual, a slim woman can age better than most men until the mid fifties. After that men's inherent uglyness looks better:lmao:

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Nah, women are always beautiful, regardless. Age, size, color, hair, none of that matters. Women are beautiful. Now, I may have a biased opinion on that, being a guy, but I just dont find men attractive at all. If I want to see another guy, I look in a mirror. Not to say that I cant appreciate a handsom man, I can do, and can even comment out loud, around men and women, that a random guy may look handsome.

 

With women typically having longer hair, well, I guess I am one of those guys that go the other way. Its just starting to get past my shoulders, but I have seen a few women that have shorter hair.

 

More commonly , it seems that people, as they get older, they have less and less issues with age. It becomes more about behavior, and personality, than looks and age. Age has less and less of a bearing on how people act as they get older it seems. People dont slow down and play shuffle board because they actually want to, its because they have to. Thier bodies cant take the strain of activities in thier younger years. I recently lost a woman that acted more like a 18-20 year old teen than the 29 she actually was. No, she didnt always act that way, but nearly so.

 

But what kind of attractive are we talking here. Physically, mentally, maybe how well off someone is? It seems everyone instantly goes right to the physical attributes, with very little serious discussion about the rest, (not that half of this is serious anyway).

 

IMO, women stay more attractive.

 

Yeah! A response from a normal guy.

 

Yes, I agree with you that attractiveness is much more than physical attributes. The last guy I dated was a Hotty McSchmotty but man, he was dumb as a bag of rocks. Fun for a while, but eventually the hotness wore off and I was left with a 15 year old masquerading as a man.

 

My new guy? Losing his hair. Kinda short. Also, smart, witty, very generous, kind, emotionally open...I could go on.

 

These kinds of threads can be somewhat funny in the sense that it is hard to believe that actual people exist who think so shallowly about women. Luckily, I don't know people like that IRL.

[susyq76]

Searching for 'a woman' and looking to get married are not precisely the same. I don't know what pool of guys you are pulling from but they guys I know have no issues for the most part. To be fair, by the time they're my age they don't want to be married, but that's a different thing.

 

Show me a man posting here with "she won't commit" and you can show me 2 women saying the same, easily.

 

 

Yeah, I agree that women typically want to be married more than men just because of society. However, the older men that I've encounter every SINGLE ONE OF THEM was talking marriage from the start. The younger men don't talk marriage until they are darn near forced lol. That is one of the main things that scare me about older men. I meet them and immediately they talking marriage and I feel it is way to early to have that talk. So, they are Searching high and low for a WIFE!

 

My pool of me...Usually I typically date attractive men that have never been married. Usually No children but I'd date a man with ONE child. At least a bachelors degree and they must at the least own their own home. I need someone to at the least match me!

[susyq76]

I think I am right. I never said younger women don't want to date older men. But when it came time to settling down, most couples I know are within 5 years of each other. I think your perception and the realities are different.

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I So agree, I don't have NOT ONE friend that is married to someone more than 5 years older than them. Actually, I don't have any friends married to anyone that isn't within 3 years of their age.

 

Also, my one girlfriend is 35 and will be 36 this year and her FIANCE is 27! Ha! So, much for the if you're over 35 you're not marriage material theory. She is beautiful, 6 figure income, own 3 homes and he matches the same. They both have no children and have 2 advanced degrees in their pockets. Therefore, neither is desperate by far!

[Jersey Shortie]

It is nice to hear a response from a man that thinks we are great, instead of condemning us

 

Delivery? I can't imagine you as a writer.

 

And I'm okay with that.

 

Correction of grammer and spelling doesn't make one more intelligent.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Oh, and I'm 36 and he's 32

[susyq76]

Absolutely. I'm not being intentionally harsh here, but I've heard more than once that if a guy doesn't have a career together by my age he's a loser. I never said men don't age, just that women are wired to care about other things as well and if a guy takes care to minimize the downside and optimize the upside his dating life can actually improve with time.

 

LMAO, CLV0116 you are HILARIOUS!

 

Again, it is not 1950 WOMEN DO NOT NEED MEN FINANCIALLY ANYMORE!!! If you're old I don't want you! I don't care if you make 10K a year or 800K a year. Also, your financial status doesn't make you a "loser." The bottom line is that I SHOULD NOT have anything in common with someone 10 years older than me. If you're dating 20 sometings and you're 35+ then either YOU are immature and trying to "act" you and relive your youth or they are unhappy and bored with your old azz.

 

If you and I are going through the same lessons in life, listening to the same music, frequenting the same places and you are 45 and I'm 30 there is a definitely a problem.

[susyq76]

Oh, and I'm 36 and he's 32

Ha! Another great example. My guy is 29 and I'm 32. We've been together 3+ years.

[Sam Spade]

Umm, so you're suggesting your current girlfriend caught the last train by finding you. Ha! I wonder if she agrees!

 

She would strongly disagree , and will bust my bollocks big time, because she's Asian, and everybody knows that asiang girls don't begin to age until they reach retirement age . That's why I should hold on to her - I defeated the system - . If we make it, at age 40 I'll be the suave cat who bagged a school girl, without having to resort to an actual age difference .

[Ocean-Blue]

She would strongly disagree , and will bust my bollocks big time, because she's Asian, and everybody knows that asiang girls don't begin to age until they reach retirement age . That's why I should hold on to her - I defeated the system - . If we make it, at age 40 I'll be the suave cat who bagged a school girl, without having to resort to an actual age difference .

 

Yup. Certain groups age a lot slower than other groups.

 

Those with more elasticity in their skin (more melanin) tend to age a lot slower. Some of the women in my family look 20 years younger than they actually are.

[susyq76]

She would strongly disagree , and will bust my bollocks big time, because she's Asian, and everybody knows that asiang girls don't begin to age until they reach retirement age . That's why I should hold on to her - I defeated the system - . If we make it, at age 40 I'll be the suave cat who bagged a school girl, without having to resort to an actual age difference .

 

LOL, I've never heard that stereotype before that Asians age gracefully lol. I've heard it about people of color but no Asians. interesting..

[susyq76]

Yup. Certain groups age a lot slower than other groups.

 

Those with more elasticity in their skin (more melanin) tend to age a lot slower. Some of the women in my family look 20 years younger than they actually are.

 

I didn't read this post before responded. Yes, I just said in my post that people of color age slower...Agreed, it is due to the melanin in their skin.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Have you ever heard the expression 18 or 80?

 

People say that Asian women look either 18, or 80. So they look really young, but once they start to look old, they look really old.

[susyq76]

Have you ever heard the expression 18 or 80?

 

People say that Asian women look either 18, or 80. So they look really young, but once they start to look old, they look really old.

 

Nope, I've never heard of it. Like I said, I've never heard that Asian women age slow. I've only heard that about people of African descent due to the Melanin in their skin.

 

I've never heard that about Asian women though.

[Trialbyfire]

Aaaahhhhh....aahhhhhh...I'm peeking, peeking now....aaahhhhhh!!

 

*lights up a cigarette*

[clv0116]

Have you ever heard the expression 18 or 80?

 

 

I've heard similar things

[Jersey Shortie]

I've heard similar things

 

I've heard simliar things. (punctuation)

[clv0116]

I've heard simliar things. (punctuation)

 

I bet you worry more about missing a period than I do.

[JerseyShortie]

I bet you will worry more about your own periods from this point on.