BootsElectric Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I don't have too many friends in real life that can give me solid relationship advice, so this seemed like the preferred place. I've been seeing this woman for the past month or so. To say we hit it off is an understatement, I feel we truly connected. I know I am into her, and our last night together we started to vocalize our feelings, along with getting into the physical realm. It feels great, especially since I haven't been involved with anyone on this level, or really, cared about anyone this much in a very long time. But because it's been such a dry spell before her, I'm really trying to play it right, and not tip my hand about how into her I am and thus coming off needy. We haven't been seeing a ton of each other, 2 times a week at most. My question is really how much do I play it cool? For example; yesterday I made an excuse to go over to her house and surprised her with a bouquet of flowers. Nothing overly special, just some tulips in her favorite color. She loved them, and I stayed for a short while before having to leave. Today she texted me telling me again how much she loved them, and I did a quick reply telling her it was my pleasure, nothing else, no chitchat. Here is where my insane self analyzing comes in; should I call her tonight to follow up/ make plans for tomorrow? Or should I wait until tomorrow, talking two days in a row is too much, keeping up the cool image, etc? There isn't a question in my mind that she is into me, yet I don't want to be the one to blow it by "over-doing it"
jenniferlm Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 do whatever YOU want, and what makes you feel good. There is NOTHING wrong with being nice to someone or such thing as being "too" nice. If someone is worthwhile, they will have enough self esteem and maturity to like it when someone is nice to them. If not...well then it's best to find that out early right? Be yourself, and if you want to be nice, see her, or do something sweet, then DO it. And you can judge the type of person she is by how she reacts to it. Good Luck.
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