blondesmiler Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Just wanted to vent, being blown out for a second date, half an hour before you are meant to meet will make most people want to vent. But it being done via email through the dating website makes it even worse, lucky I saw it pop up in my mailbox as I was just logging off to leave (all dressed up and ready to go). Thats it, I just have gotten totally fed up with being treating like a piece of ***** and like a right c**t. I give up on dating and men, this "game" that dating has turned into these days just isn't fun anymore. Full of too many disappointments and being let down. I can't take it anymore. Sigh, just plain old single me, again and always.
clv0116 Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Sigh, just plain old single me, again and always. Well I love your new avatar.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 6, 2009 Author Posted March 6, 2009 Well I love your new avatar. Its not me in it but it is funny
bean1 Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 If you are experiencing a continual series of let downs and are being treated like crap, then you need to take a step and look at your own behaviour in all of this. What sort of men are you choosing to meet? Are you receptive to them or are you chasing them? Where are you meeting them? (I know online, but where online?).
BobSacamento Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Half hour before the meeting is just about as good as stood up. Better to find out he's a D Bag now than 2 months down the road.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 6, 2009 Author Posted March 6, 2009 Half hour before the meeting is just about as good as stood up. Better to find out he's a D Bag now than 2 months down the road. Yes it is as bad. And yes your right it is better to find out now. Doesn't help with me feeling like "it" is just never going to happen for me. I cannot be much more than I am, and yet it just isn't enough for guys.
jerbear Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 I saw your profile pic and think why in the world would that guy cancel via email.
kdark Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 That's one of the things that turns me off to dating sites. It's not people you are interacting, it's just words on a screen, so it's so much easier to flake out and jump ship because there isn't that human element.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 I actually cried myself to sleep last night, not because of the date but just out of sheer frustration, (I really just feel really low) with dating & being left hanging especially on a Friday night.
Lishy Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Oh honey ... Dont get down on yourself, dating sites are a heap of crap and you do not need to be part of a couple to be happy! You will meet someone when you least expect it but first you need to work on making yourself happy! Get off the dating sites and get out more if you can? You are a lovely girl and you will not be single for long but you need to chill and let it happen when it happens! Dating sites are full of loonys and commitment phobes etc, who needs that? Not you baby!! Chin up sweetie, get yaself to Sainsburys on a Wednesday night ... Singles night Where in london are you?
Author blondesmiler Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Oh honey ... Dont get down on yourself, dating sites are a heap of crap and you do not need to be part of a couple to be happy! You will meet someone when you least expect it but first you need to work on making yourself happy! Get off the dating sites and get out more if you can? You are a lovely girl and you will not be single for long but you need to chill and let it happen when it happens! Dating sites are full of loonys and commitment phobes etc, who needs that? Not you baby!! Chin up sweetie, get yaself to Sainsburys on a Wednesday night ... Singles night Where in london are you? I am in South East London. You? Yeah I am cancelling my membership, just not worth it and full of time wasters. Can't help but get down, its been so long since I have been dating someone and I miss that interaction, terriably feel very lonely. I feel lousy and really down.
Lishy Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Yup hun I know how you feel completely BUT when I feel that way I think of my last 2 relationships, I think of the good and bad things and the bad outweigh the good by a ton. So I remember that and it makes me smile that right now I may feel unloved and bored and lonely at times BUT at least I am not miserable IN a relationship, that is the worst feeling ever! I am Noooorf london babe x
knaveman Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I'm sorry you got stood up, I've been stood up a lot. It sucks. Notice how much it sucks and we keep going back to dating? Dating or sharp stick in eye...<weighs options>
Author blondesmiler Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Yup hun I know how you feel completely BUT when I feel that way I think of my last 2 relationships, I think of the good and bad things and the bad outweigh the good by a ton. So I remember that and it makes me smile that right now I may feel unloved and bored and lonely at times BUT at least I am not miserable IN a relationship, that is the worst feeling ever! I am Noooorf london babe x I don't really want a full on relationship (I know what your saying) just dating and having some fun, clearly that is just too much too ask from alot of guys Here you have a good looking girl, who would like to see someone once a week perhaps to go out have some fun and come back and have some more fun. I would of thought that would be ideal for alot of guys, but obviously f***ing not.....seriosuly I am at a total loss. Everything I am is just being wasted, and before I know it I will be old, still single and looking alot worse for wear than I do now and then still won't be able to get a date cause I am too old! Its a totally impossible situation. I cannot even communicate how crappy I feel right now.
I'm Joe Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Why are all you girls in the Uk? Come to the United states where all of us guys think your accent is hot. British women are a hot commodity around here.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Why are all you girls in the Uk? Come to the United states where all of us guys think your accent is hot. British women are a hot commodity around here. erm did I mention the guy that blew me out was from the States!! So that is that theory out the window!! I must be totally unattractive to the entire world! am going to start wearing a muffin top, ***** clothes and dress badly, stop doing my hair and showering, also start claiming benefits rather than work for a living, and perhaps then I might be able to find myself someone, as those people seem to do quite well for themselves here in the UK
I'm Joe Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Ahh! Importing Americans, big mistake! We are out of our element in Britain. especially American men! You need to come here, where your voice becomes the siren call for guys everywhere. Forget that looser anyway. I saw your picture, Your gorgeous! If only there werent thousands of miles, an ocean and a passport between us I'd take you out. Now get out there and find the British Joe. Since he is my Limey doppleganger you can probably find him downtown lecturing teenagers on the dangers of smoking.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 7, 2009 Author Posted March 7, 2009 Ahh! Importing Americans, big mistake! We are out of our element in Britain. especially American men! You need to come here, where your voice becomes the siren call for guys everywhere. Forget that looser anyway. I saw your picture, Your gorgeous! If only there werent thousands of miles, an ocean and a passport between us I'd take you out. Now get out there and find the British Joe. Since he is my Limey doppleganger you can probably find him downtown lecturing teenagers on the dangers of smoking. Thank you very kind of you too say ~ but not enough for the guys here, even with a good fun personality and SOH tons of other good things, it either isn't enough, or I just scare men away with it.
gfto Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 This sort of thing happened to me regularly before I ended up with my gf. I got discouraged just like you are. The key is to remember that it's a numbers game, and to not take it personally. Once I understood that, it never bothered me again. I'd just laugh and say, "next!" You have to dig through a lot of garbage before you find a winner.
chrislovestosurf Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 im sorry to hear this happened to you. If it is worth anything youre a very attractive girl.. he was probably not ready for a girl like you.
Double D Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Dating is really tough and can SUCK big time but as they say anything worth doing aint going to be easy. Easier said then done but keep ur head up and keep going forward. Afterall you never know what tomorrow will bring As someone said he most probably wasnt ready for you. His lost. You know ur worth.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Seriously guys I am not in the least bit bothered by him, only his actions as they were just plain rude and lacked politeness and manners. The only reason I quit as it was the straw that broke the camels back, to many messers within the internet dating realm. So I do quit, quit online dating and quitting looking. Not because of him but because of him plus countless other losers that I just cannot be arsed with being messed around anymore.
bean1 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I'm really sensing some poor self-esteem and issues with weight, do you think you may give off that sort of vibe to others? I used to be a girl with low self-esteem. I always ended up with guys who took advantage of that and I was always miserable. Once I learned to love myself and become confident, I never ended up with losers because I couldn't be bothered with them. I said it before in the beginning, once you keep heading down the same path with the same losers, it's time to look within yourself and your own actions.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 My confidence/self esteem has dipped, because of the whole dating lark. Its been like someone nipping a little away at a time, where I have just got to the point where now I think its best to quit it and get myself back to my normal self again.
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