2sure Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 The complete transparency should now be on both of your parts... At his point he is honestly not only continuing your affair, not involved in the recovery process of your marriage....but also simply punishing your infidelity. Enough. Punishment is not part of the process. Understand that.
NoIDidn't Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 The fact that he confessed is promising, but I understand your frustration with his nastiness. Its uncalled for and if the children notice, its unhealthy for them to witness. Maybe the two of you just need some time apart to make an informed and well thought thru decicion concerning reconciliation or divorce. Either way, I think you should tell the OW H, so she will have her own marriage to focus on.
NewSunrise Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I second tell the OW, her BH and her family, if you haven't. You cheated first, so he got back at you by cheating. Punishment. Now, you want him to quit playing but he's not ready to give up just yet. Punishment. In reality, the people you two are actually punishing are the KIDS. So, if you want your happy and family intact, switch the game playing. Want to nip the conflict that's causing the family and marriage in disarray? Go after the conflict----the A + OW = NC + Exposure. If you're going to save the M, keep in mind, you started the game. If you're going to walk away and divorce, might as well do it with a good hurrah.
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