so_confused7 Posted October 7, 2003 Posted October 7, 2003 Okay- i dated this guy for 2 years. Everything between us was perfect until he decided that he wanted a "break." He had just turned 21 and it is his senior year in college. Basically what it boils down to is that he wanted to party (and i do not like partying-). So... we have been apart for 2 1/2 months (still talking of course but just as friends- but we fought too just b/c we neither one were saying what we wanted each other to)- A couple of weeks ago he told me that he was going to hang out with another girl and he told me who she was and everything. Even though this bothered me i thought it would be good for him to kind of help show him what he really wanted- and just simply make him realize what he had and was losing! And too- i didnt see this girl as much of a threat b/c she is SO wild- and exactly opposite of me! The thing is- this girl is wild and parties all the time and has dated other races- one for an extremely long time (i am NOT racist by any means but... he is from the north and he and his family throw around racist comments all the time- and disagree with dating anyone that is not of the same race!!!) He made fun of and talked awful about my roommate all the time b/c she was dating a black guy- i understand the fact that the girl is new to him and it's all pretty exciting- she goes out clubbing with him and everything.....but what i do not understand is how he can be "over looking" her past!! Especially when it is everything he's ever detested!! And i know he is well aware of it- b/c one of his buddies got beat up last year by her ex boyfriend (the black one) for dancing with her at the club. Is he choosing to over look it while he is dealing with getting over me- basically...what i am asking- is he using her to help get over me?? Also, i dont understand how you can date someone for 2 years and then just throw the towel in and start hanging out with someone so seriously.... do you think this is a rebound girl?? Is he totally over me- or just using her to help get me off of his mind??
LadyX Posted October 7, 2003 Posted October 7, 2003 Why don't you just move on and stop concerning yourself with what he's doing? You'll feel much better once you cut the ties. Sometimes it's better to completely sever the relationship.
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