Flamenco81 Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 This may seem a weird topic, but I have been dating this girl for about 6 weeks. I've stayed over at her place about 4 times, and a couple of those times we've gotten into it. Haven't gone all the way or had oral sex yet, but there's been a lot of touching and nakedness. She is sort of conservative and doesn't want to rush into it too soon, but I know it's coming to that point eventually. The issue I have is that she doesn't seem to have ever shaved or anything down there. And it's really hairy. And I don't expect every girl to not have a single hair there (I would love it though), but if I am eventually going to give her oral sex and stuff I'd want it to be pretty trimmed or gone. What's a good way to tell her this without offending her?
bean1 Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 I can't think of a cordial way to bring that up in a 6 week relationship! I assume you are clean and well-trimmed as well, correct? You can tell her you prefer your trimming for x reasons and perhaps she'll catch on. Or suggest a romantic bath and offer to do that for her. Still, she might just cry and be embarassed.
Author Flamenco81 Posted March 6, 2009 Author Posted March 6, 2009 Yeah. Well actually the first time we sort of did something and got naked I had not really trimmed myself for a while, but I was not expecting to do something that soon so I had not prepared. So after that day I knew we'd probably be doing more stuff soon so I did trim pretty good. And after that she's seen me naked like 2 times and obviously she probably noticed but didn't comment or anything.
D-Lish Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 That is funny- I didn't think girls still kept the 70's bush thing... I take it all off- every bit o'hair down there. I think you just have to be upfront and honest. There is no other way. Tell her you like it shaved, tell her it turns you on. I dated a dude straight off the boat from Ireland- he was covered in a black downy forest from chest to toe.... I trimmed him up in the shower. If you're intimate enough with someone to put your face in their groin, you should be able to be upfront about the hair issue. I'd spin it in a way that just states your preference but doesn't upset her. Tell her you get really turned on by a shaved cookie.... If she doesn't get the hint- grab the bic, take her hand and walk her to the shower.
AGBourne Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 worst way is to be direct in this situation. best way and it does work wonders, is to tell her that you love how trimmed and neat she keeps it down there, even though you know she is not. Be absolutely convinced in this. Thing about people is they want to live up to the image others have of them, especially if its positive. This will definetly be on her mind in a positive way and she will probably actually trim it. Single best way you can make people change is by complimenting them on something you want them to change, even if they don't have those qualities just yet.
carhill Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Trim each other. It's kinda like playing doctor with grown-up parts In any event, talk about trimming should occur after you've blown her mind with your cunnilingual skills
Sam Spade Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 In any event, talk about trimming should occur after you've blown her mind with your cunnilingual skills But stop just before she's ready to cum and tell her she ain't getting no mo', no how, until the bush is gone.
Citizen Erased Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 But stop just before she's ready to cum and tell her she ain't getting no mo', no how, until the bush is gone. If you don't mind never getting anywhere near that bush again. Or that of anyone else she knows or cares to communicate to of how much of an a-hole you are.
Sam Spade Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 If you don't mind never getting anywhere near that bush again. Or that of anyone else she knows or cares to communicate to of how much of an a-hole you are. That's okay, the vigilantes punishing the injustices that the legal system simply won't deal with are rarely loved and supported.
rlindzie Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 if she has never shaved down there than asking her to do it for you prob. wont work it will just offend her. she has to do it for herself, bc honsetly it is not an easy job keeping it compleatly hairless. and lets just be real it hurts! so i think if you do what the other guy said and complment her than she will want to trim, but it might be a while b4 she takes off all the hair, but be a man and deal with it! dont be a little sissy b/tch! lol
nicki Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Tell her she is beautiful "down there" and that you would love to see her hairless or trimmed even more than she already is (yes, I agree with the poster who already suggested saying it that way) Really, though, it is a personal choice. I keep myself hairless, but I reserve the right to change my mind about it anytime. Some of my friends say being hairless makes them feel like little girls....so tread carefully when you suggest it and be open to whatever she wants. However, keeping it all nice and trimmed very low is a polite thing to do for you so you can perform your oral magic. Maybe ask her if she notices that it is easy for her since you shave it all off (when you guys get to that point.) But, if you aren't having sex regularly, then you can't bring it up yet, except in passing to say that you think the "idea" of it is sexy and asking her what she thinks.
SarahRose Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 It's her body to do with as she pleases. It isn't right to ask her to change. What if she liked bald men or dreads? Would you do either for someone you've only known a few weeks? I doubt it with guys so hung up on people telling them what to do.
Art_Critic Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Whatever you do if you talk to her about it NEVER mention or compare her to another woman you have been with.. Don't say anything like "every girl I have been with shaves and I like it like that" or "the last GF I had shaved and didn't have a problem with it.." I speak from experience on this... Many years ago before manscaping was popular I had a GF ask me to shave by comparing me to her last BF.. terrible move.. She pissed me off...
nicki Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Yes, I'll second that! I had a guy ask me to get a tatoo on my lower back because he thought it was hot. Then he added that his ex girlfriend had one there. Bad move. Wouldn't have gotten one anyway, but it made me feel bad anyway.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 Tell her she is beautiful "down there" and that you would love to see her hairless or trimmed even more than she already is (yes, I agree with the poster who already suggested saying it that way) Yeah, I agree you're going to have to spin this very delicately. It shouldn't come off as a criticism, something she has to do to fix a problem. I personally am much more likely to reward a man who lovingly suggests modifications to my body that he already enjoys, rather than one who frames them as criticisms. Make it out to be more that you want to see what's under there, rather than that there's something wrong with what's there at the moment. Peronally, I vastly prefer being totally bare, as the sensations are heightened and I love the way it feels and looks. But realize that she might not be comfortable with it -- some women aren't. It might help to point out the benefits. Also, I think you should offer to go totally bare yourself. Then you're got that bare skin-on-skin action that is superhot. My ex did this a lot, and I totally loved it. Great for sexin' and oral lovin'.
socialight Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 i would bargain. Make some claim about how you really like to do oral x and y but it's really difficult unless you have a clean smooth surface to work with. Think win win.
chrislovestosurf Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Im not really into the shaved look, I just think it looks silly. Id rather a girl have a nice landing strip, lol. Excess hairyness is unecessary though.
LostLamb Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Why not ask if you can shave her? My ex shaved me a couple of times but you have to trust the person to let them loose down there with a razor. Or slightly tipsy
boldjack Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 My wife is hairless in the summer for her thong, but lets the foliage grow after about labor day. I think it's great and have no problem going down on her when she's hairy, but my wife is the cleanest person on the planet. If a woman has good personal hygiene then the smell and taste are terrific, but there is something to be said for oiled and tanned and bare, too. It is, after all, her bod and she can be as hirsute as she wants to be. I have never heard of a full grown man who was too delicate to give oral to a hairy woman. I think that your problem is your problem.
Lishy Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Why dont you tell her a funny story about a guy you went to school with who went out with this girl and when he took off her knickers he though she had the Jackson 5 down there! Tell her that you are shocked that some girls dont trim it up neat as that is general grooming and then change the subject and keep your fingers crosssed!!
chrissylee Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 If you are worried about offending her why don't you ask if you can shave her down there?
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I don't know. maybe you should frame it in the context of it being about you. ask her if she would rather you not shave! or maybe you should grow a giant bush to and see how she likes it.
mixwell Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Just say "Hey have you ever heard of that Guns and Roses song Welcome to the Jungle ?" Just let her know you hate that song.. Seriously though just suggest that she shave it.. When I was with my 1st ex she wasn't shaved (we were 14) but after the 1st cunny encounter she shaved all the time after that..
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