Lost

[bonkers]

Sorry for bad title but I couldn't put lost and confused in there.

 

More likely due to my in experience than anything else.

 

 

 

Trying to determine if this girl is into me or interested. I introduced myself got her name. She does yoga and I used that as a means of breaking the ice. I asked a couple of questions simple ones we were at the gym.

 

But here's how it went along with the questions:

 

I asked her:

 

What time do you normally take yoga?

 

Is it difficult for someone very new to yoga?

 

Do they change the exercises weekly, daily?

 

She basically answered everything found out what she did for her career, she told me times she goes to take yoga when she goes to the gym (mind you she told me the times she goes to the gym I did not ask her kinda let her do the talking I just listened)

 

I kinda thought she was interested in me until the end. She was getting up to move to another exercise which hinted shes not interested because she would have stayed..and her final comment basically said if "I see you then I see you" which to me is a red flag. My problem is one she was nervous when she was talking to me fiddling with her ipod. I also noticed she was giving more imformation than I had asked in my question. Basically I got a bag of mixed signals that left me confused more than certain she wasn't interested.

 

This doesn't bug me that much but I would like some input so I can use this experiance in the future.

[Geishawhelk]

She had no idea you were interested in her, and basically just answered your questions.

Sorry, but I don't see your point here.... what are you lost and confused about, exactly?

[bonkers]

No. For some reason the forum wouldn't let me name it anything else it always said "your title is not fallowing our guidelines" and it changed it back to lost.

 

Well my point was I wanted to introduce myself I asked simple questions but she kept giving far more information than I had asked for. I am fairly inexperience at this method. I'm not used to asking people I have never met before. But I was wondering because I could tell she was nervous but I was getting information which had nothing to do with questions I had asked. Like for example she told me about her job yet I did not ask for it or mention it. Simply wondering what it meant because normally from my exp. if a girl is nervous around you it means she interested be it friends liking you w/e. Maybe it's just my inexperience.

 

What would you suggest I look for? I know if she or any person engages back it can mean their being nice or something else entirely. I tend to look for body language like body position, hands, facing you another object, busy constantly checking something etc.

[Geishawhelk]

think she was just being chatty, but was possibly nervous because she didn't know your motives.

Maybe she's had a bad experience and didn't know where to put herself.

 

You just had a conversation.

That's all really.

Don't read anything into it....

 

Body language is a major part of communication, but it's not the whole part, and sometimes it's easy to misinterpret, or misunderstand, or even mis-read the signs.

 

You seem somewhat uptight about this.

Maybe she noticed this too, and misinterpreted that.....

[bonkers]

Thanks. I didn't have an experience like this before so I was a bit confused after wards I just wanted to get someone elses input. I want to get better =) no problem finding your faults I say.

[Shnuggles]

this is good. You had a chat, nothing wrong with that. You have to start somewhere.

 

There is no rush. Smile, say "hi" and keep on their good side. When you're up for it, ask her out for a coffee.