redapple Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I had been dating my bf for about 5 months. We met online and connected instantly. Within weeks of or relationship he asked if i was seeing anybody else and we both agreed that we would be exclusive. The signs were all there when he did not spend important dates like xmas, nye and valentines day with me. We would row quite alot due to his behaviour, like him turning up drunk or bailing out on me at the last minute (like NYE). I would often dump him but we would always get back together within 48 hours. He would always talk me round. I found on the history pages of my computer that he was continuing to log onto internet dating sites. I confronted him and he said that his friend was logging on on his behalf. Like a fool, I believed him. When we were not arguing, things were great. I had no reason to believe that he was cheating on me. I found texts on his phone and the upshot of it was that he was still dating girls on the internet. He told me that it was unsolicited messages that he was receiving. However, he went on one date with this girl. Met her at 7pm and then came to my flat. When I confronted him, he said that it was the one girl that he had been out with. I wanted closure and when we met up he said that he still wanted to get together with me. He said that he could make me trust him again. The following night , I caught him in a pub on a date. I was so angry I poured a drink and his date's over him then ran off with his crutches (he has a leg injury). I threw the crutches away. He caught up with me at the station. Asked me where the crutches were and apologised to the girl for everything! Not to me, but to her. I was so angry, that I punched him in the face and kicked his bad leg. He told me to stay away from him. I have never behaved like this. I am still angry. Why do I still feel so angry and hurt? Why am I so stupid to be feeling like I can give him a second chance when he has hurt me like this?
gavinus Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 It is hard when you like/love somebody you make excuses for them. Do not give him another chance!! There is an old saying which goes talk is cheap!! If you got back with him you would never be able to trust him again. Trust is a important part on any relationship, without trust the relationship becomes unhealthy. Move on and meet an awesome guys who will treat you right!!
BCCA Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Why do I still feel so angry and hurt? Well, being lied to and made a fool of would make anyone angry. Im not calling you a fool, at all, but I think we all know exactly how you feel right now. One of the worst feelings in the world. Why am I so stupid to be feeling like I can give him a second chance when he has hurt me like this? Because the guy he is and the guy you want him to be are not the same person. His academy award winning performances thus far have made you think that he may actually be a nice guy, like youre looking for. His actions make it pretty obvious that hes hopping from one woman to the next. This guy is a lost cause. Trust is the most important part of a relationship, and hes shown himself to be untrustworthy and dishonest. To the curb with him.
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