Bowie Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 So here it is I'll try keep it as short as possible not to bore you. Been with the g/f a few weeks now, and I feel that there is a whole load of problems that I'm personally experiancing, she doesn't seem to be wanting me at times. e.g. Went to town weekend just gone, arrive in and try contacting her, i hear nothing, I have no idea whats going on till I contact one of her friends who comes down too me, I go off with them and then see the g.f with other friends she doesn't come over to me or even say Hi, I go over and say Hi, but nothing in return so I go back over too one of the guys and by the time I turn around she's gone, I basically don't see her for the day till the end, I get a text saying "I'm at BT2, wanna come down and talk? " I head down and she tells that she has been having problems with her bestfriend and she says Sorry about it, I go its alright I understand as some of the things said were pretty hurtfull too her. We then talk abit and go on. Later I'm not texting her much as I am still annoyed with her and she's texting me and then rings me too see If I'm going to reply which I do, She seems to think that I'm angry the way she acts around other lads she's friends with and keeps saying If it's a problem to tell her, I respond with its not, as i knew what she was like when we got together. Next day I head up to a friends house that shes also friends with and I'm barely geting acknowledged again, I try talk to her but I'm not geting anything out of her yet she can talk too everyone else with no bother. At the end of the day me and another lad walk off messing around about to come back and she's gone with 2 other girls who are bringing her home, she doesn't say bye or anything of the likes. Her friends say that we really need to talk things out as It's kinda weird, I have actually never been out with her on my own and It is starting to annoy me slightly. Her reason for this is "Why??? Other people are fun" Am I being unreasonable to want to see her on my own? I don't want to be clingy with her but the way she acts with other guys she doesn't with me and I don't mind but I don't understand why shes not like that with me!! What do you guys suggest I tried to say it to her over msn but she just kept saying Sorry. How do you think we should go from here, I don't wanna dump her over this but It feels really bad! Her friend tells me yesterday that they where talking and that she does like me, but still I'm feeling very distant with her, I tested this by walking off and she comes running looking for me! Help!
Ronni_W Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Sorry but I'm not seeing any signs that she is ACTUALLY your "girlfriend" nor, really, that she has any desire to be. So she comes running for you when you walk off but that's about the only thing...and that's not even a sign of a healthy friendship, nevermind romantic relationship. And so her friends are telling you that she likes you...her actions sure ain't backing that up, are they? In any case, what does that mean to her, that she "likes" you? -- that she likes to mess with your head and play mind games with you? -- cos that's about all she is consistently doing, wouldn't you say? Personally, I'd say that you deserve MUCH better from your "girlfriend". But it's up to you if this situation is good enough for you, or if you are going to skip it.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 omg seriously you need to be with someone who wants to make the effort and actually appreciates and is so proud to have you in their lives. trust me their are good women out there that are just dying to meet a great guy. keep your head up and dont ever let anyone walk all over you no one has that right to ever make you hurt that way.
tbaby82 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 i think you need to be real with her and tell her how you feel about the situation and realtionship. sometimes when you tell people how you are feeling they will see what it is that is bothering you and they may change. now if you talk with her about it and you see no improvement i suggest that you leave it alone.
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