Should I go completely NC?

[79les]

WE were together for three and a half years and broke up 2 months ago, haven't talked directly in three weeks except one short IM. About a month and a half since the break I agreed to take care of her pets while she was out of town . The last day of taking care of her pets I left a note saying the animals are fine and also wrote, I see things much clearer now, I think you did the right thing by breaking up because It was the best thing for both of us. Since then a series of events have taken place that confuse me. The day after she got back she called me at 9:30 pm from work I didn’t answer so she left a message.

 

She was thanking me and I could tell in her voice she was maybe expecting to talk cause she was awkward and hesitant. Then a few days later I was importing pictures from her Myspace and Facebook that I took during some of our trips, Bdays, but none of her and myself together. While I was in the middle of doing that she sent a comment about one of the photos and I didn’t respond back. Then I go to Facebook and she tagged 9 pics of her and myself as a couple, trips etc, to my Facebook wall. I deleted it off the wall, how ever she can see I put them in my album.

 

A day later I tagged her back with the same pics and wrote a note saying, Tagged you back, but she didn’t delete them. A couple of days later she puts a love song on her Myspace. A few more days go by and I’m on Facebook and she IMs me asking a question about a friends daughter, so I answer and then she ask how I’m doing etc, more chit chat and then she stops, an hour goes by, and no I’m not waiting that long I was doing other things, so I wrote Ok then Goodnight. A few more minuets and she comes back and says Ok… I’m back now.

 

I thought that was little rude so I just shut down the computer. I did send her a message the next day asking what happened, why she just stopped and was gone for an hour and she wrote back she was just tired of sitting at the comp and got up went to the living room to watch TV.

 

A couple of days later she sent me through Face book a pieces of flare, it’s a button with a phrase on it saying” you had me at bacon“, what ever that means? Lastly two nights ago while on Facebook, I checked to make sure she wasn’t on, I try to make sure but I was writing a friend and then, pop, It was her on the IM asking me the same question I answered before. So I didn’t respond, and after a few minuets she signed off. She hasn’t called me since thanking me, that was three weeks ago. I’m trying keep some distance from her but I still have strong feelings for her, and miss her. I know she Isn’t trying to string me along at least not intentionally she isn’t that type.

 

Anybody have any insight to what’s going on and why, especially the pics of us she sent to me? Should I send her a message asking why she sent them to me? Or should I go NC? She knows I still have feelings for her I think, and It’s only been two (long) months. Let me know…

[Geishawhelk]

Classic chain yanking and throwing you breadcrums.

She's got your attention, and that's all she wants.

This is the way it always, but always works.

The dumper establishes or maintains contact because although they're not into you any more, you still have your uses, and you're good for their ego.

 

The computer incident should be enough to tell you that...

"Ok I'm back now" After leaving you hanging for an hour, 'because she was bored'....?

 

 

Nice.

 

no contact.

 

100% TOTAL.

For everything and anything.

Cuts both ways, in or out.

 

Oh, and by the way - that goes for facebook/myspace too.

Do not keep checking. It will only drive you insane.

[LoveUrselfFirst]

Sounds like she is playing games with you. I mean common sense is if you walk away from your company and you were in the middle of chatting with someone, you would (well she would) say, listen imma step away from the comp for a minute blah blah, ya know?

 

I understand you miss her...I mean 3 years into a relationship isn't easy but you tried your best to stay strong. I just think for the moment if she happens to play those games again, tell her right now you don't know where your mind is at and the best thing for now is space. That doesn't mean that you two will get together, which I know you would like to, but it will also determine if you two can go back into better terms, or the relationship is on pause, or remain as ex's.

 

STEP AWAY FROM THE FACEBOOK AND MYSPACE for awhile.

[Jay34]

yeah go 100% no contact, myspace and facebook are the worst to look it.