Summer381 Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 My ex-boyfriend and I were together over a year. We had known eachother since we were 8 years old and years after high school we ran into eachother. It was a very tumultuous relationship filled with a lot of passion. He had jealousy issues and I had abandonment issues. Eventually I broke up with him. He begged for me back and before I could make my decision I walked into his house to find him in bed with another girl. For 2 weeks we didn't talk and then he contacted me. He was full of apologies and I believed him. Its now been 6 months of him showing up at my house and sending me texts and I feed into it and do the same. He says I'm the girl he wants to marry and that he loves me but hes still with her. He says hes not ready yet. I just really don't know what to do. I love him so much. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do in this situation I'm so confused and scared.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 He is telling you that he wants to marry you as a way of keeping you around. He is seeing you behind her back because he can, and because you enable it to happen that way. As long as you allow this to keep happening, he will happily continue to see you behind her back. If you want him to make a choice, he has to have a real choice to think about: it is either you or her. If he chooses her, then you will cut him out of your life and never speak to or allow contact with him again. If he wants you in his life badly enough, he will do what it takes to make that happen. If he lets you walk away, then you'll know exactly the depth of his feelings for you.
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