Art_Critic Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 You would ruin your chance to get laid and have pussy over an animal.. Dude... People have pets.. your neighbors, coworkers even GF's... I happen to not be the biggest fan of cats ( I don't hate them.. I'm just a dog person by nature ).. but right now as I type this there is one sleeping on my foot.. why ? because it is my wifes cat... I guess with age comes tolerance ....
alphamale Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I guess with age comes tolerance .... tolerance my ass
Sam Spade Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Fascinating. I'd be enthralled. I love cats, but I didn't get a cat in my new city because I was worried that girls would have this crazy stereotypes about a single guy with a cat, seriously. I love my dog, but it may be this particular consideration that may have resolved the hesitation in the dog direction.
johan Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Domesticated animals are the source of many diseases which have killed millions of people over the centuries. Cats shed and puke everywhere, but overall they are decent to have around, and pretty much maintenance free. Good cats anyway. There are bad ones. Dogs are just one step short of having a baby. You might think you'd refer to her as the "ball and chain" if she moved in, but that's nothing compared to Fido.
Die Hard Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 She's going to want a pet someday and you obviously have issues. If a woman tells me she does not like animals it's a complete non-starter. It's been my experience that people that don't like animals to the point you don't. lack empathy. They are the kind of people that don't care if you're sick, except for how it will affect THEIR week. They don't care to listen to your problems, unless it will somehow will help them to listen, etc.. etc.. The OP is a perfect example. Not once has he shown ANY EMPATHY for his GF's love of animals, it's just me me me and what I I I want. I had a friend once that left his girlfriend when she got breast cancer because HE couldn't handle it. He hated pets too. How does her having a pet affect you in any real way? It doesn't. But you can't even handle the thought of her having to walk the dog????? Not because she'll have to get up and do it, but because of how her walking the dog will affect YOU. Let her go and find a pet hating women. She'll be easy to spot. She'll be spouting I I I and me me me.
alphamale Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Dogs are just one step short of having a baby. You might think you'd refer to her as the "ball and chain" if she moved in, but that's nothing compared to Fido. boy johan if i had a nickel for every time i saw a dog lick his nut-sack and then lick his owners face i'd have $1,000
Die Hard Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 We are both busy people as it is and dogs take so much and cats take lessAnd speak for yourself there dude. SHE isn't too busy to have a pet. If YOU'RE too busy to have a pet, then she must be too? Lack of empathy. You sound very controlling in your posts as well. She's a human being that has wants and needs and if having a pet is too much of a need for you, then move on and let her find someone that will let her be herself and enjoy the things in life she wants and enjoys. Most men want the woman they care about to be happy and this is such a small thing you could do yet you refuse. If you cannot compromise regarding getting a pet, I imagine you are not one to EVER compromise if it affects YOU in any way shape or form.
D-Lish Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 boy johan if i had a nickel for every time i saw a dog lick his nut-sack and then lick his owners face i'd have $1,000 As an owner of two dogs and a lickable face- I'd say I'd be a millionaire by now. Mind you, a millionaire whose face smells like dog's balls... but whatever.
Storyrider Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 but right now as I type this there is one sleeping on my foot.. why ? because it is my wifes cat... I guess with age comes tolerance .... tolerance my ass Are you saying he's pussy whipped?
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I adore the fact that my BF has a dog. Now thinking about it, I think I would view him a little bit differently if he didn't have the dog. I'm not saying I would like him any less - there's just an extra appreciation for him being responsible that wouldn't be there without the dog. So, yes - having an animal can be good for getting girls - not a myth.
Squirtal Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I love animals. I had a cat before I got with my SO, and knew he was so not into cats..he has two tortoises. As much as he hated cats, he still went out of his way to get a cat flap fitted and accepted me into his home with my cat. We now have a dog also. But to be honest..if I hadn't had a cat when I met him I know I wouldn't have got one when I knew his feelings on cats. It personal perference..maybe the OP didn't phrase it properly, but who are we to tell him what he should or shouldn't like. I'm lucky that my partner has become slightly more fond of the cat..probably due to how funny she is when she battering the puppy. Saying that both cats and dogs are hard work, you can't just take off at a moments notice..cats are more self suffient but they still need to be feed and watered...dogs need walking and toliet training and believe me thats really hard work..I'm at 6 months with my puppy and he still has accidents. I will say to you Green though...a cat is easier and isn't so demanding as a dog, and can be just as rewarding, but if you don't like cats, then thats just you, theres nothing wrong with that..unless you kick them about or something.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 A real relationship is about caring for your partners needs and wants some times even above your own. Its all about compromise in the end and to me from this thread and some others your just not into compromise at all so I dunno...
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 RE: Sam Spade's post, do women actually look more favorably on a guy with a dog? Is it seen as him being able to be responsible for a life other than his own or is this kind of a myth? I find it a deal breaker myself It just makes for kinder people/men in general I think anyways I would def dig a guy that liked my animals!.. And yes it shows they can care for another being as well so thats always a bonus over a guy who can barley care for themselves..lol I have 2 cats 1 mouse and 1 big fish.. Ive downsized over the years..
Sam Spade Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I adore the fact that my BF has a dog. Now thinking about it, I think I would view him a little bit differently if he didn't have the dog. I'm not saying I would like him any less - there's just an extra appreciation for him being responsible that wouldn't be there without the dog. So, yes - having an animal can be good for getting girls - not a myth. THe only disadvantage is that you need to get up after hanky-panky to walk the li'l buddy before going to sleep. Or go walk the li'l buddy before hanky-panky on sunday morning.
anne1707 Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 THe only disadvantage is that you need to get up after hanky-panky to walk the li'l buddy before going to sleep. Or go walk the li'l buddy before hanky-panky on sunday morning. Don't forget the hanky panky which is all going well until you realise you are being watched - not good! For me, a blanket no to having pets with no reason other than just not liking them would be a problem. Good reasons include allergies (and not just an assumption that you would be allergic) and practical issues (especially re dogs and leaving them on their own too long whilst at work). To me, a favourable attitude to pets provides an indication of someone's ability to care and be responsible. I also agree with TBF in that for children, having pets can really add to the quality of their childhood. I know when I met my H, he wasn't bothered about having pets but I was. When we finally got a cat together it was at his suggestion because he recognised how important it was to me and wanted me to be happy. As it is now, he is probably an even bigger cat fan than me. A true convert
Sam Spade Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 THe only disadvantage is that you need to get up after hanky-panky to walk the li'l buddy before going to sleep. Or go walk the li'l buddy before hanky-panky on sunday morning. Also, you need to make sure doggie is outta the room during hanky panky since kids are not supposed to see.
JamesM Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I love pets of all kinds. Currently we only have a dog and a few aquariums. But in the past we have had cats, bird, frogs...etc. My wife was not totally thrilled with pets when we met, but she was not against them. We both have decided cats are not for us anymore. My point is...if you are certain you will never change, don't lead her on to keep her. This will be a point of contention guaranteed. Animal lovers see this as a big deal. If you don't see the "need" for pets and she does, then don't move in together and say "maybe one day." I am guessing I know the site you are referring to, and I also enjoy seeing what pets are up for adoption. thats total baloney...there are bad parents who have pets and there are good parents that have no pets and everything in between. there is no co-relation between the two... so if i have a dog/pet then i will be a better parent? how totally idiotic Totally agree with this. We had a number of cats prior to children, and there is no correlation to keeping cats as compared to children. After kids, we have had dogs, and I say the same. Just because one loves animals in no way means they can tolerate screaming, crying babies and whining toddlers. Trust me. The reverse is true. I know guys who are not very tolerant of pets, yet they have tons more patience than I with children. Animal lover of all kinds here! If a guy isn't an animal lover, I would also reconsider the relationship. My reasoning is that if it's a serious relationship, the long-term implications are that our children won't have the pleasure of having pets. They're wonderful fuzzy/sleek little/big creatures who have amazing personalities. This is so good for kids, to learn to take care of and befriend animals, whether it's a hamster, cat or dog. It teaches them a sense of responsibility for their loved ones. So well said. Condemning the family to a life with no pets due to your disinterest is not fair. She said she doesn't want a dog now but maybe someday 2 years and I said fine maybe someday and hopefuly thats the end of her pulling up the adoption website and telling me its her favorite site... she points at her kitten poster ahhh "Maybe some day" only keeps her hopes alive when in reality you have no plans currently of having one. Not fair or honest. Having said that, it IS possible you will change your mind, but it is important that you are honest now regarding how your feelings are now. Keeping her around with a carrot on a stick is not fair to her...or her potential children. If a woman tells me she does not like animals it's a complete non-starter. It's been my experience that people that don't like animals to the point you don't. lack empathy. They are the kind of people that don't care if you're sick, except for how it will affect THEIR week. They don't care to listen to your problems, unless it will somehow will help them to listen, etc.. etc.. I had a friend once that left his girlfriend when she got breast cancer because HE couldn't handle it. He hated pets too. As an animal lover, I totally DISAGREE. I know men who have no use for animals who were the best of caretakers to their dying wives. I know of a man who took great care of his animals who abused his children. Not always a correlation IMO. Sometimes yes. Always...no. It comes down to being completely honest while dating. She loves animals and pets. You do not. Both can make decisions regarding the future based on that. Having been married for almost nineteen years, I can say that we change alot compared to our dating days, BUT never marry someone with the idea that you will change to their liking. Decide today....her with animals or no her.
norajane Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 haha I will be a man but I'm also using games like I have no idea if I'm alergic but I've been saying I think I might be alergic. She does stuff like point at cats and pictures of kittens and surfs the animal shelter adoption page infront of me. Seriously though I have made it pretty clear I will stop visiting her at her place if she gets one and we will not live togather You'd know if you were allergic by now, unless you've never been around any cats or dogs. So no, it's not a game - you're just flat out lying to her about maybe being allergic. Just as you've made it clear you won't visit or live with her if she gets a pet, she's also made it clear she wants one. She's offered a compromise of getting a dog since you hate cats so much, even though what she wants is a cat. Have you offered any compromise? There are people who love pets and people who don't. The two are not a good mix in a long term relationship, because one or the other will always feel deprived or irritated. Unless you find a compromise, your relationship isn't going to progress, and will likely end if you don't even try to offer a compromise. As it stands now, you're lying about maybe being allergic and you're giving her ultimatums - no pet or you'll put the relationship on the line. Neither approach bodes well for your future together.
Die Hard Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I love pets of all kinds. Currently we only have a dog and a few aquariums. But in the past we have had cats, bird, frogs...etc. My wife was not totally thrilled with pets when we met, but she was not against them. We both have decided cats are not for us anymore. My point is...if you are certain you will never change, don't lead her on to keep her. This will be a point of contention guaranteed. Animal lovers see this as a big deal. If you don't see the "need" for pets and she does, then don't move in together and say "maybe one day." I am guessing I know the site you are referring to, and I also enjoy seeing what pets are up for adoption. Totally agree with this. We had a number of cats prior to children, and there is no correlation to keeping cats as compared to children. After kids, we have had dogs, and I say the same. Just because one loves animals in no way means they can tolerate screaming, crying babies and whining toddlers. Trust me. The reverse is true. I know guys who are not very tolerant of pets, yet they have tons more patience than I with children. So well said. Condemning the family to a life with no pets due to your disinterest is not fair. "Maybe some day" only keeps her hopes alive when in reality you have no plans currently of having one. Not fair or honest. Having said that, it IS possible you will change your mind, but it is important that you are honest now regarding how your feelings are now. Keeping her around with a carrot on a stick is not fair to her...or her potential children. As an animal lover, I totally DISAGREE. I know men who have no use for animals who were the best of caretakers to their dying wives. I know of a man who took great care of his animals who abused his children. Not always a correlation IMO. Sometimes yes. Always...no. It comes down to being completely honest while dating. She loves animals and pets. You do not. Both can make decisions regarding the future based on that. Having been married for almost nineteen years, I can say that we change alot compared to our dating days, BUT never marry someone with the idea that you will change to their liking. Decide today....her with animals or no her.I agree I was a little over the top with the dying partner stuff. Probably not a fair assessment i that regard. Apologies to the OP but I do think if you cared about her you'd let her get whatever pet she wants. Not only would you make her happy but you'd be a part of rescuing some animal that has no one in this world. You might just find it satisfying after a while.
JamesM Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Another point based on observations of other people.... If you feel obligated to get a cat or dog in the future because of her and you do not really want that animal, then statistically, that animal has a greater percentage of being abused. So not fair to girlfriend and not fair to animal.
Recommended Posts