misschelle Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 i am 26 just broke up with with my bf basically between today and last night. we have been together recently for 2 yrs, but the first of the year i told him to get his things and leave because i could no longer deal with the way he had been treating me. since jan till now we have been trying to work things out but ti no avail. a bit of history here, we knew one another back when we were teens and he was my "first" about 12 yrs past since we had seen or talked to one another...when i say how he was treating me we are pretty different socially, he like to be "in the mix" of things and is constantly out with his friends adn what not. at first he stil made time for me and when we were not spending time together he always noticed it and corrected it. then things started going south, he'd stop being home when he said he would, he'd say ill be home for dinner and then not show up and to me that was hurtful. i told him these things and he would seem to work on it for a lil bit then back to the same old thing. there wasn't anythign i wouldn't do for him. what caused the break up was a voicemail he had on his cell phone from another girl. that he had hasved. he tried to tell me she had called the wrong number but i feel if that's the case he would nto have saved it...no to mention he has a long VM message (like 3-4) mins that is him talking she would have known she called the wrong person. in a fit of rage i took the remaining things he had at my house (a few high price things might i add) and shot them out into the street...i tiold him they were out there but didnt' know how long before someone took them. I know that was childish but i just wanted him to feel the betrayl and pain i felt after hearing that msg.I love this man so much and i just at least want him to talk to me so i can go thru whatever process i need to to heal. now he wont answer my calls at all and i dont know if he's even listening to my voicemails. do i just leave it alone and let him call me or do i keep trying.
Geishawhelk Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Listen, this is over. You threw him out and his stuff. This hasn't happened just once, but twice. Now leave him alone. You blowing hot and cold isn't helping either of you, and you come across as needy and clinging. Leave him be, let him go, and move on. Go complete NO CONTACT. I suspect you'll ignore this though, because it's not a relationship, it's an addiction. You can't keep away from him, however poisonous and toxic this is. Can you?
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I know a little of where you've been. Just like me, we are too nice and accepting (meaning saying "It's ok") like calm and collected but overall it was eating us alive. I mean you had a feeling something wasn't right and you checked his voicemail and you heard a message from a girl. Now not to jump to conclusions, but did you call her afterwards or did you just get really upset/frustrated automatically? Right now...step away from the phone and do not call him. You were upset, you heard the message and you did what you had to do out of anger. If he is at all apologetic and feels bad, he would call.
miss-jem-bishop Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 well if it was me i would leave it... he is obvousily likeing the attention or else he wud be contacting you back wudnt he ?? well i say maybe send him texts or one more voicemail and say well you obvousily dnt wanna talk to me so im just gonna leave it... look after yourself and il see you around... you walking away more annoy him than you chasing him! i know it hurts but love hurts it takes time to heel and its not nice... keep your self busy maybe start a class like a sports one or meet friends more often its not gonna be easy but take the good with the bad and smile with the sad im sure u have friends that are around for you and yes every now and then you will have your down moments but when u get them sometimes it is best to get some choclate and have a good cry cause building it up wont help but after your cry try sleep tends to help.. trust me! hope you sort it out let me know x
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