Fruitypie Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Hey there Ive been told by this guy that he doesnt fancy me as a girlfriend, this was just before we were going to have sex, and as far as im concerned the only signals i gave out were for wanting sex. and i agreed that casual was fine. Then he kept asking me if i loved him on different occasions, to which i categorically said no. The final time he asked me and i said no in a rather agitated tone, he then said 'well i dont love you either' and then spent the next hour telling me how much he didnt fancy me and was illustrating these points with stories about other people! On two occasions hes said i love you, once was the third time we had sex and then other was about 4 weeks into this arrangement. But i acted like i didnt hear him say it on both occasions. But we have sex reguarly now- which im cool with- but as time as gone on hes got more out of sex buddy territory. He keeps coming into my room even when he doesnt want sex, has slept in my bed even when we dont have sex, weve spent whole evenings together without having sex. He also started coming in to my room when he woke up in the morning and kissing me or kissing me before leaving the house. he usually brushed his hands over mine but avoids holding them although the otehr day he actually grabbed my hand and pulled it over to him about 5 times. I usually keep my fingers limp though as i dont want to hold his hand as he said he doesnt want me as a girlfirend. But he also keeps on about my appearance, he calls me fat yet when i try and diet, offers me high calorie food, he's bought me stuff for my bad skin, my hairy lip (ahem) tells me to get my teeth whitened. One time when i was talking about going to the doctors and told him it was none of his business he said maybe i care about you yet when i came back the following week from the doctors he mocked me. Everytime he behaves nice the next day he behaves like a bit of a twat. Also when i try and initiate sex he will get of the bed and walk out even though he has an erection. He also gets a bit stroppy when i have to meet a male friend of mine and makes sarcastic comments about me having sex with this firned although he always laughs when he says it. and always asks me where im going, if im meeting anyone etc. He also, when i ask him a question, acts like everyone loves him, like oh yeah im expecting a call from a hot girl, maybe im meeting someone etc and then makes reference, on other occasions, saying if i meet someone else etc. Why does he act like im his girlfriend yet keep saying im not? why bother so much about trying to change me? Surely if he makes me look better i might find someone else? he is quite geeky so he definately isnt meeting other girls etc. Do you think he does want me as a girlfriend? or not?
DavidH Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 most insecure man on the planet. half the time he's lying to you. he's trying so hard to look cool/carefree/higher values... he either really really likes you and has NO IDEA what he's doing, or he has a HUGE ego and just needs to satisfy his ego by putting you down/clinging to you. idk
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