clv0116 Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Here is the thing, you are well within your rights to go as far as you want to, and stop when you please. Unfortunately, a guy is well within his rights to not call or think youre a tease. Its a trade off, neither party can expect the other to completely agree with their decision. I dont think you did anything wrong .... Oh I agree she has the right to stop any time. When I say "you shouldn't" it was meant in the sense "you shouldn't do that and not expect the completely predictable result".
BCCA Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Oh I agree she has the right to stop any time. When I say "you shouldn't" it was meant in the sense "you shouldn't do that and not expect the completely predictable result". I agree, its more than likely that he's going to bail, but that doesnt mean hoping to meet a guy who is ok with it, and wants to keep seeing you is such a bad thing or asking for the moon. In dating, there are always the 'probable' outcomes, and the exceptions. Most of the time, we know the probable outcome is more likely, but we hope for the exception. Youre really not wrong either way.
clv0116 Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I agree, its more than likely that he's going to bail, but that doesnt mean hoping to meet a guy who is ok with it, and wants to keep seeing you is such a bad thing or asking for the moon. To be clear, the kiss at the door and calling it a night says "classy", the thing she describes says "I'm playing games".
blondesmiler Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Worst case scenerio - he saw the blood, figures you got your period, and was put off that you had not figured that out. If you want to see him again, give him a call, cant hurt. Do not mention the blood at all . You handled it perfectly well the first time. Totally agree with this.
BCCA Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 To be clear, the kiss at the door and calling it a night says "classy", the thing she describes says "I'm playing games". To me, it would more imply some sort of baggage, say from being used for sex before or being affraid of being used for sex. When people go 95% of the way, and seem to know their way around a bed, its curious to us guys why they stop short if theyre not a virigin. Women view sex a little differently, and its kind of a way to keep a guy on the hook - hint at the possibility of having sex, even if you have no intention of going through with it. Not that its intentional, but I cant blame a woman for waiting as long as it seems right to before going through with the act. Seriously, if you have sex with a guy you havent been dating at least a few weeks and gone out with at least 4-5 times, he'll probably hit and run. It was easy to get the sex, and now thats all they want or they're out the door. Not every guy is the same, but a lot are. And you can view it as playing games and decide that youre done. Nothing wrong with that, its a personal choice. Might be a little hasty if you ask me, but its your right. Like I said, were all entitled to our own view of the situation, and no one is right or wrong.
Hi.P.O'Crit Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 To be clear, the kiss at the door and calling it a night says "classy", the thing she describes says "I'm playing games". I wouldn't call it playing games. She told him she wasn't ready for sex but decided to makeout(foreplay). To me that's an invitation to try and get her ready knowing that its not a given. Playing games would be if she didn't tell him that she wasn't ready for sex and continuing with the foreplay.
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