annbann Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 My husband makes me earn his attention before he'll notice me. I've known this for awhile, but he's never admitted it until last night. Everything has to be the way he wants it before he's comfortable enough to show me affection. I could be naked and ready to go the moment he walks in the door, but if there's a glass left in the sink...I might as well not even be there. It's humiliating that our dog is greeted with more sincerity than I am. Coming from a broken home myself, I don't want our boys to have to live an every other weekend kind of life. I don't know how I'm going to get through the next 15 years with this man treating me like this. How am I going to go on pretending that it's not tearing me apart?
Geishawhelk Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Would he agree to counselling, if he's admitted there's a problem? You need to sort this out. By the way, better two happy but separated parents, than two miserable married ones. Trust me.
LovieDove24 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Coming from a broken home myself, I don't want our boys to have to live an every other weekend kind of life. Your children are going to live in a broken home regardless. Either they see their father treat their mother like a doormat and learn marriages are not 50/50 OR you divorce and they have an every other weekend kind of life. What I'm trying to say is that they way your husband is treating you RIGHT NOW is broken. This is an unhealthy way of life for your children to see. If they see their father giving you unrealistic expectations, they will naturally feel the same intense demands from their father too. I advise that you get out.
LiveandLearn Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I agree. For me, it would crush me to see how unhappy my mother was in her marriage. When I was old enough to comprehend what my mother was feeling, I had always told her that if I had a say in it, I would have told her to leave my father. It's unnerving and heartbreaking to see your parents argue all the time and see them unhappy. Staying together FOR the kids is never a good idea. You may have good intentions, but it rarely works out the way you imagine it.
lostsoulmate Posted March 6, 2009 Posted March 6, 2009 My husband makes me earn his attention before he'll notice me. I've known this for awhile, but he's never admitted it until last night... It's humiliating that our dog is greeted with more sincerity than I am. I don't know how I'm going to get through the next 15 years with this man treating me like this. How am I going to go on pretending that it's not tearing me apart? Annbann- You need to value yourself more than this! This is a type of emotional abuse. If he won't go to counseling.... you need to get out and go to counseling yourself. If he ever decided you weren't the one he would do this too, it will end up being your kids. I again say.... NO ONE SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE THIS! Please be careful!
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