LovieDove24 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I am a tall female by most standards and I constantly have men making comments about it. I always get "Man, you're so tall...You must be like 6'2" or something." Umm, no. Not even close, I'm 5'9" but thanks?? I'm not sure whether its an insult but it never really sounds like a compliment either. And I stopped wearing heels because I really AM over 6 feet tall when I do and men just avoid me altogether then. For what it's worth I am a very pretty girl, but I just don't get it. Why do men drool over models but make incessant comments about my height? Am I missing something here?
I'm Joe Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 If it makes you feel better.... They all want you. Tall guys, short guys. I am 5'9 too, only I am a guy, and everyone makes comments about how short I am. Even though I am a reasonably handsome man it makes me unattractive in the eyes of a lot of women. I wish people thought I was 6'2!
385 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Why do men drool over models but make incessant comments about my height? 5'9 isn't that tall so I don't see what's there to worry about. They say the average male is 5'11 so that means at least 50% of the guys you meet will be taller than you. Frankly, if I'm taller than you, I won't make a comment about your height - it's only when a girl is taller than me, then I might say something about it. They probably make a remark just to get a response from you.
Author LovieDove24 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 I am 5'9 too' date=' only I am a guy, and everyone makes comments about how short I am. [/quote'] Well we are experiencing the same type of discrimination then!! 5'9 is not short for a man but I believe you when you say that people make comments about it. Its the same strange phenomenon with people making comments about me being "so damn tall."
385 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Well we are experiencing the same type of discrimination then!! 5'9 is not short for a man but I believe you when you say that people make comments about it. Its the same strange phenomenon with people making comments about me being "so damn tall." That's because height might be the first thing people see about you. Say you see someone pretty far way and they stick out from the crowd because they are tall. That's just the first thing that comes into mind. This is just like if you are wearing an orange shirt when everybody else is wearing black - it's the first thing that pops into people minds. You shouldn't worry about - you can't do anything about your height. Just be proud of it. I know a lot of females that would love to be taller. Next time someone says that you're tall, just be like, "haha, thanks. I'm actually a model for Vogue or something."
theycallmeprincess Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I too am a tall woman, I stand at 5'11 and have constantly put up with remarks from everyone (men and women) for what seems to be my entire life. When I was younger, in my teens and early 20's I was very self conscious of my height and would do whatever to try to blend in. I didn't wear heels, I slouched (which I'm paying for now, resulting in really bad posture) wore baggy clothing in an attempt to hide my tall frame. By my late 20's I finally learned to accept and then embrace who I am and now instead of trying to hide it, I do my most to show it off. I wear the highest heels I can find/walk in LOL I wear short skirts to show off my mile long legs, and I LOVE the fact that not many people can look me in the eye while standing next to me. I also believe that any man worth his salt, will not be intimidated by my height, and in fact will find it a complete turn on. So to sum up my post, tall women rock!!!!!
Mahatma Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Whoever said most men are over 5'11'' I would disagree. First off, how old is the poster? If she is in her teens or even early twenties the men are still growing. Second, I highly doubt 5'11''... maybe as a world average. Here in America, many have too horrible of lifestyles ever reach their full potential growth. As far as the OP is concerned... 5'9'' is taller than most girls, but you should be eye level with most guys. I doubt anyone would really tease you for it.
Sam Spade Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 You're not that tall, though close. Overall, it's probably the hormones in the milk and the abundance of food. American women on average are larger than any woman I've ever seen anywhere I've traveled. All else equal, in my eyes, a very tall woman won't be quite as attractive (except as an object of distant admiration) as a tinier one, but that's just a personal preference, and certainly not a dealbreaker. But, there are plenty of big guys in the good ole U S of A, so you will easily find somebody that you'll be tiny relative to.
Author LovieDove24 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 Whoever said most men are over 5'11'' I would disagree. First off, how old is the poster? If she is in her teens or even early twenties the men are still growing. Second, I highly doubt 5'11''... maybe as a world average. Here in America, many have too horrible of lifestyles ever reach their full potential growth. As far as the OP is concerned... 5'9'' is taller than most girls, but you should be eye level with most guys. I doubt anyone would really tease you for it. I am 24. And you can doubt all you want but you've never walked a day in my shoes.
Author LovieDove24 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 I too am a tall woman, I stand at 5'11 and have constantly put up with remarks from everyone (men and women) for what seems to be my entire life. When I was younger, in my teens and early 20's I was very self conscious of my height and would do whatever to try to blend in. I didn't wear heels, I slouched (which I'm paying for now, resulting in really bad posture) wore baggy clothing in an attempt to hide my tall frame. By my late 20's I finally learned to accept and then embrace who I am and now instead of trying to hide it, I do my most to show it off. I wear the highest heels I can find/walk in LOL I wear short skirts to show off my mile long legs, and I LOVE the fact that not many people can look me in the eye while standing next to me. I also believe that any man worth his salt, will not be intimidated by my height, and in fact will find it a complete turn on. So to sum up my post, tall women rock!!!!! Oh gosh I was so self concious about my height in high school. Guys that age are immature and brutal...truly I believe they still have the mentality of gradeschoolers: that if they tease it means they like you. NOW though I am totally comfortable with my height. I don't even feel that tall...thats why I don't understand the comments and wanted to get some clarification. And I totally agree, miniskirts are hot on us long legged ladies!
Green Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 OMG I love tall women my gf is about your height wieth heels on. Seriously I'm such a perv for tall women and their long legs and bodies. And for sex taller can only be better for instance I don't want to be banging my head into the wall! lol... Any ways 5'9 and 24 wow sounds hot if I were your man I'd love to see you in high heels... And I have been guilty of the "you're tall" but I usualy add that I like it.
manugeorge Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 People make comments because it's not the norm, that's all. I don't think they are insulting you. Wear your height with pride, it's beautiful. I'm 5 8" and I wear those heels like there's no tommorow but then again I get a kick out of towering over people.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I'm 5' 8.5" myself and I think that tall, athletic women can be very hot! I see some at my gym from time to time and am impressed.
socialight Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 if you got it flaunt it! But you are on to one thing that is key here -- men are naturally taller than women. Just like many women won't date short guys, many men, particularly shorter men (like myself) just naturally rule out taller women. This is one of the few instances where I think women need to be more aggressive. If a taller woman open flirts with a shorter guy, he will probably pick up and go for it. But most guys, all things being equal, will hit on girls their height or lower. And with most girls being boosted 3- 5 inches by heels, you can do the math. So my advice to taller women is to be more aggressive with guys.
calazhage Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Women usually want men 4 inches taller so they can wear heels.. So obviously most men whom are not 6ft 3 would think you are not interested. And it is harder to find taller women with nice bodies.
rach23 Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 You are tall and pretty. Trust me, you're better off than most people. I am 5'9" as well and I use to be self-conscious, but you've got to accept yourself. Here are some tips -confidence is the sexiest thing a person can have -if you have long legs, flaunt them -try to work out...that way when you stand out they'll also see that you're in good shape -DON'T hesitate to wear heels (if they are appropriate for the occasion) -DON'T make yourself shorter by slouching...that is unattractive! -accept the fact that there are always SOME people who aren't going to like you for one reason or another. This is a truth for everyone (short and tall) You know, if I were to described the PERFECT man...one of his features would be that he's tall. That' being said, I've really liked a lot of short guys. Not because they are short, obviously, but because they tend to make up for their height in confidence and personality. Think of guys that you have liked in the past. Do they always match up to your "ideal" in every way? Probably not. The same goes for you (although I must say 5'9" is ideal for many people!). Accept yourself, exude confidence, and they will come
Ruby Slippers Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I'm tall, too, and I also hated it growing up and would sometimes slouch to try to blend in more. Now I own it and stand tall. I actually often get the comment: "You have really good posture." And more than one female has asked me if she could trade legs with me for just one day. Being tall has its perks.
chrislovestosurf Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 5'9 is fine. 5'9 is fine 5'9 is fine, wow what a cool ryhme. Anyway thats not too tall, but I dont think I would want to date a girl who is under 5'2 or over 5'10. Im picky about height, most guys arent unless the girl is taller than them!
monkey00 Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I'm 5'10" and I love tall girls I went out once with this girl that was 6'1", sweetest down to earth girl I've ever met..she was pretty to boot too. Sorry to say but if those guys who are around your height or shorter than you are too insecure to go out with you, then I don't think they should deserve to get to know you in the first place.
Nicodaemos Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Only 3 women actually did more than give me a passing glance, and they have each been getting shorter. from 5'11", to 5'3" to the last one that was 5' exactly, but i never met her. Legs...Legs...legs. I love the legs of women. Short tall, dont matter. Physically though, I have my preferences. And it would be nice to be able to look a woman in the eye, and not have to pick her up to kiss her. Although, that has its own kind of fun too. Those legs though, the more of them there are, I love it. "Stand tall, stand proud"-- Isnt that how the quote goes? Im 24, male and 6' so I tend to look at the forehead of most women. but im not intimidated by tall women. That effect in men may be the result of not wanting to be beaten by women. Being tall may actually help find a good man, cause if they arent bothered by that, then they may be worth spending a little time on.
Eweezy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Tall women that can dance and move are a big turn on for me. My friends don't consider tall women attractive though, but who the hell cares what they think. I wouldn't consider a tall woman that's taller than me attractive though.
Hughesy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I don't bother pursuing taller women as I am short man of no more than 5'8.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I am a tall female by most standards and I constantly have men making comments about it. I always get "Man, you're so tall...You must be like 6'2" or something." Umm, no. Not even close, I'm 5'9" but thanks?? I'm not sure whether its an insult but it never really sounds like a compliment either. And I stopped wearing heels because I really AM over 6 feet tall when I do and men just avoid me altogether then. For what it's worth I am a very pretty girl, but I just don't get it. Why do men drool over models but make incessant comments about my height? Am I missing something here? There simply is no other physical characteristic about random women that makes me do a double-take more than (considerable) height. I say that knowing that I'm completely open to a long-term partner of any height at all. It's just that when a very tall woman is nearby, I always notice (with about the same regularity as those guys everyone sees, never missing an obvious pair of breasts). Thankfully nobody ever critiques me for it... and it doesn't even matter if she's underage or something. I'm not going after her, or hitting on anyone as the result of this attraction, but I love it just the same! What makes the whole picture even better is when she is playing the part OF a tall woman, instead of the stupid flat shoes and the horizontal stripes with all of the other little tricks. My advice to you is to make certain you are taking your own natural features and accenting them, rather than playing them down. You can really pull-off an air of boldness and self-confidence at 5'9" and I really think you should!
Tyra Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Well, I'm tall myself. I'm 5"11 and I love being tall. The attention is wonderful. If you love yourself and walk with the highest confidence you make yourself even more attractive. Be proud of who you are. I know a lot of women who told me that they wish that they were tall. Guys love women with long beautiful legs. Countless of guys who were shorter than me were interested in getting involved with me.So flaunt your body off and be happy!!:bunny:
yongyong Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 well if you want guys approach you more, you should think if you carry any 'bitch shield' I think most women who is tall and decent looking, think they are model. of course I get scared by those drop gorgeous tall girls but I usually avoid decent looking tall girls because of bitch shield they carry
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