sugardoll Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 so i've been dating/living with my bf for about 2 months now. the whole dating moving in part was quick but the transition was easy and hassle free. i know surprisingly. he's older hence, he's been divorced has a son (who lives with him) and has more history than i do. i'm in my early 20s he's mid 30s. recently, his history has started bugging me. i don't know how to explain it. i've had a couple serious relationships that have lasted more than 1yr. he on the other hand has a marriage/divorce and engagement under his belt. while i haven't even reached engagement with anyone. we're opened about everything, and i'd like to talk to him about this issue i'm having but don't know how to bring it up. any advice?
2sure Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Your kind of asking how to bring up to him that he has had life experiences that you have not. And why not, since he is experienced, and you are not - ask him about these things? In a healthy relationship both partners share and both learn from each other. No need to feel at a disadvantage - look at this way: Everyone makes different mistakes. If you are hesitant to ask because his past experience bothers you, thats another issue. What can he say that could possibly make you feel better? If you cant think of anything, he probably wont either. On the other hand, if you want to be assured that he loves you more - maybe he will tell you that? What are you looking for in your talk with him?
chrislovestosurf Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 so the issue is that you just cant get around that hes had more history? is it that he has a son that lives with him? Is it something that you wont be able to get over?
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