385 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Say you two just started dating - how often do you text/aim/call the other person? Once a day? Twice a day? Every two days? Give a rough estimate. Thanks
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 We talk by phone, every day, sometimes multiple times per day and also email. I let him initiate contact, since I'm working from home and he's not. This has been going on since we started dating.
prettybaby Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 In the beginning, we used to phone each other about twice a week (usually mainly to set up our next date). And e-mailed each other a few times in between. Now (2 months later) we're in touch pretty much daily, although it's okay to skip a day if either of us is busy. The contact is varied: either by e-mail, phone text, or phone call. It feels pretty relaxed, I don't feel like we're following any rules. We basically contact each other when we feel like it or want to share our day, etc. I'm not thinking about long term contact rate at this point. Just taking it one day at a time.
2sure Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I'm married 3+ years now but when we were dating - even after we just met - he used to call me every single night at 10pm. I have dated other men who would call me at work at 10am and then again at 10pm. Its strange. You think its women who want to be called every day - but it seems that when a guy is really interested - he likes to check in. I never required it and have even thought it odd.
dreamergrl Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Its strange. You think its women who want to be called every day - but it seems that when a guy is really interested - he likes to check in. I think this is so true. My now bf gets in contact with me every day. And I let him do the initiating.
Star Gazer Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 We see each other very often, so we rarely talk on the phone - there's just no need. We do exchange multiple emails throughout the workday, and texts when we're not at work - but this is usually just little things here and there, sharing what's going on in our day, planning what we're going to do that night/eat for dinner/whatever. As for initiating, it's pretty even.
heartoutside Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 OK, what if its casual? For example, I was seeing this girl about 6 months ago, it was casual but I wanted it to be a little more exclusive. But she ended up "in a relationship" with the other guy she was dating casually. So I bowed out and went on with my life. She tried calling while she was still with this guy, but I never answered...basically just left. Now they broke up within 2 weeks of my disappearing. She and I never talked after that and she made sure that she never ran into me at our mutual job but checking the schedule every week to see when I was working (part time thing) but about 6 weeks ago, she and I went out again, and have gone out a few times since and it's been great and we've put everything on the table this time around... But there are times where she'll do a lot of the contacting either via texting or calling. But then there are instances where she just seems to vanish....such as in the past few days. But again, it's casual, we're not exclusive........but I've actually never really casually dated anyone, esp when I'm totally interested in them so I have no idea what to expect......I called her last night just to see how her crazy weekend went, but had to leave a VM.......
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 heartoutside, if you want to contact her, why aren't you doing so? It sounds to me like you want her to pursue you through initiating contact, but are feeling some anxiety over the loss of control. This isn't laying things out on the table. It's game playing. Maybe I'm wrong but it appears you've taken on the passive role.
Author 385 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 In the beginning, we used to phone each other about twice a week (usually mainly to set up our next date). And e-mailed each other a few times in between. Now (2 months later) we're in touch pretty much daily, although it's okay to skip a day if either of us is busy. The contact is varied: either by e-mail, phone text, or phone call. It feels pretty relaxed, I don't feel like we're following any rules. We basically contact each other when we feel like it or want to share our day, etc. I'm not thinking about long term contact rate at this point. Just taking it one day at a time. Haha, that's good that there's no rule. Thing is, I've been initiating most of the time, and she hasn't really initiated anything. But then again, we've only been on one date, though, the second date is about to come next week.
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