Not the love ace Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I put this thread in another forum, but I felt that this was probably appropriate for this forum as well. I hope whoever moderates this doesn't have a problem, I appreciate it. Well, its been about two months since me and my girlfriend had broken up, and about 2 weeks since she got with her new boyfriend. Initially she didn't tell me about this guy but I knew for a while. I was upset she rebounded so quickly and we argued for about a week on this situation. She went with him because they have classes together and see each other everyday. Since me and her break up, I see her maybe once or twice a month since I live 3 hours away. Like I said we argued and I was irate that she lied to me for a long time about this guy. During the time she still told me she loved me and confessed her feelings for me. I did the same and I we still had a relationship going on and were about to see each other again. However, she went out with him and all hell broke loose but, we finally reconciled and she finally apologized for her wrong-doing and for leading me on after a long week and a half of arguing. I accepted the apology and we both confessed our love for each other. She told me she loves him but isn't in-love with him and is still in love with me. She said she's with him mainly because he's there and comforts her (especially during the arguments between me and her) and because she enjoys being around him. She told me that she's still in love with me and enjoys my company much more and she still wants to see me. I told her I still want to see her as well but warned her that if she's with me its not going to be easy for her to be faithful. We made up and in the end she basically says she never wants to lose me, and never wants to lose our relationship because she truly cares for me and loves the time's she spent with me and doesn't want to forget them. I feel the exact same way for her and I don't want to lose her since in-the-end we have a tight-bond. As much as I do believe her and feel she's sincere, and we made a date to see each other in 2-3 weeks, I decided to actually go no-contact with her for maybe a month or two. I still feel really jealous and a little hurt and think I need to just not have any contact with her. At the same time I don't want to have no contact and she becomes closer and love the guy more and forgets about me. However I believe that if she does loves me like she says she does, and doesn't want to forget me, then she'll make the effort to contact me if she truly feels that way. I think I might be giving her too much attention and I think she should make an effort. So is it a good idea to go NC for a little bit? Then If she does try to contact me multiple times, I'll get back to her and at least try to win her back. Whats the best thing to do? I really truly want her back and I know that me and her still have chemistry between each other and I don't want anyone to break it. I'm also scared if I go NC that she'll forget about me. Is it possible to get her back? Have any of you gotten your ex back? Also, do you think she'll completely forget about me? Though I don't think anyone can forget someone they love so much at all. I'm confused. Please leave any advice and stories you may want to share. Thank you.
Mahatma Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 As soon as you get into the "get them back?" mode, you should realize it is just time to move on.
Author Not the love ace Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 As soon as you get into the "get them back?" mode, you should realize it is just time to move on. I guess. What bothers me is that I'm having a hard time moving on. She loves me and I love her and I do believe there's still a chance me and her can get back together. I just don't want to forget about her since we do have an amazing time together and we are really close despite all the crap that has gone on. We still share mutual love for each other and I just don't want to drop everything and forget about that. I know I might be a little hard headed and stubborn but I don't want to leave everything if the love is there.
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