confusedcookie Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 i feel like he doesn't love me anymore, he used to be so attentive and now he's not. he used to be so cuddly and not anymore. we use to have sex daily and now he says he's too lazy, and i'm initiating it most of the time. he gives excuses to all the behavior and insists that he still loves me. i ask and ask, and tell him to be honest because i'm suppose to believe and trust him right? but i feel like i can see it in his eyes that he use to look at me like he's head over heels in love with me, and now i don't see it anymore. should i trust myself, or should i trust him and give it more time? if he didn't love me, why would he say he does? but don't actions speak louder than words?
mlh5046 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 i went through the same thing with my gf, its about attraction, he may still love you but hes getting less into you right now, you need to get his attention. Maybe spice up the sex life somehow or go and do something fun together. Or honestly just have a face to face chat asking him what he really wants if nothing else works, trust me if that continues its not a good path, I know it all too well.
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 If he's not a confrontational person, like having a serious talk, than obviously approaching him with your concerns, he would probably push further away from you. As a woman it doesn't hurt to ask him if everything is ok in his life. Maybe he is going through some things that he hasn't brought up to you that maybe he doesn't want you to know (meaning he doesn't want you to feel sorry for him). If he says everything is cool, than you can try a few things: When he comes over like someone said before, dress up "extra" for him to see if he will attack you (not attack you in a bad way, attack you as in has the hots to want to make out and what not). Go out more like to the movies or dinner. I know coming over all the time and not doing anything is too repetitive and gets boring. Surprise him with his favorite cookie, drink, or something sweet that you know he likes and be like oh I was at the store and when I saw this I thought of you. NOW....if he doesn't appreciate any of that stuff in some time, than it would be best to slowly start pulling away from him. I don't say this as like to play a game with him, but just so that you can tell yourself, well I'm doing things for him that he isn't appreciating so imma just do me!!! When I say "Imma do me" that means go out with your girlfriends, go back to the stuff you use to do before dating him, basically keep yourself busy so that you don't have to worry about his ass because than he will wonder what's been going on that you are pulling back from him. If he doesn't care after some time, than maybe that is when you should question do you really want to continue on this path with him. See what happens and after some time you would have a right to ask him what's going on with him and if he doesn't get closer to you and act like a boyfriend, girl, you kno what to do, because as I placed as my username....you need to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. And if they dont' appreciate you, than you shouldn't appreciate them.
miss-jem-bishop Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 well if you say you use to see that he was head over heels for you and now you dont see that then maybe its answered your question already .. talk to him tell him that your not gonna take it no more and talk bout leavng see how he reacts bout it, they say if you love someone let them go if they come bck thats how you know... not always true but mainly is! i know its easier sed that done but you need to be strong bout this put your foot down and see how he reacts bout it all... x
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