Dawn26 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I Just wanted to get some overall perspective on this. Is it better to wait for a second or third date?
runner Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 if you see it coming straight away, i don't see why you should wait. unless you're playing some sort of game recommended by another attraction guru. its just a kiss, not a marriage proposal.
zaphodb2002 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I think that absolutely depends on you and her and how you guys feel. If the moment feels right, though, GO FOR IT! Don't force it.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I like kissing on the first date!!! it shows the man that the woman is interested and vice versa.
Stitch Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 At the end of the first date with my now lovely boyfriend, I gave him a kiss. The date had gone really well and I felt we connected. Since people can be hard to read, I thought a kiss made my intentions clear. That being said, only give the person your dating a kiss if you genuinely are interested. Mixed messages aren't fun.
Geishawhelk Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 ...Of course, if you're lying in bed, breathless, naked and sweaty after an hour of hot passion, then the question is academic.....
jadelil25 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Everyone is different. I have kissed sometimes on a first date and with my current boyfriend I waited until the second date because he was shy and it did not feel right. Just go with the flow and if it is meant to happen it will. If it feels right then just go for it and I dont see a problem with doing it.
Mahatma Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Hmm, if you do not feel like kissing and visa versa, then I do not think the first date went well. Unless you are younger than 15.
Waitress Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think a hug can be nice, too.
prettybaby Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 I know it depends on the people and the situation, but personally, I think waiting at least a couple of dates is nice. You really want to create a special bond first, it makes the kiss sooooo awesome afterwards. Even if it's somebody you've already known for a while, dating is getting to know them on a whole different level. I'd personally wait a bit, but that's just me.
carhill Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 When you get old you'll understand that affection is a gift you give. Personally, I wish women weren't so stingy with it. It's not like you're going to run out or something Seriously, it's a good idea to behave in a way which you feel positive about on the first date and on every date. When your partner feels the same way, bonus
Sith Apprentice Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 You should always get at least a kiss by the second date and dump her if she doesn't put out by the 3rd date.
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 My last bf leaned across the dinner table and kissed me on the first date. It just felt natural. Caught me by surprise a little- but in a good way. I liked it, it made him appear confident and I didn't have to play any guessing games on whether or not he was attracted to me. I think sometimes it feels right and sometimes it doesn't.
ruggy Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Question is... How do you know that SHE feels it is right?
Sam Spade Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Yes, it is not a good idea. My policy at least. No kiss on a first date. Thereafter, any time I'm feeling it, but the earlier generally the better as it helps weeding out the uninterested girls, so it still serves mostly instrumental purpose at that point. But not on a first date (I could not be argued into believing that 3 hours spent in public with somebody you don't know can produce sufficient evidence for attraction, broadly defined. So, Megan Fox would get the same treatment).
Author Dawn26 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I guess it all depends if the date went well. I recently went out with a guy and I sort of initiated the kiss, I wasn't sure if that was a good or a bad move. Yes, I'm definitely older than 15 more like 26, BUT I'm not very experienced when it comes to dating. I was formally engaged to someone for a very long dreadful time so I have not dated much.
Author Dawn26 Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 Hey....what if the couple have been talking on the phone for a while? I'm not talking about blind dates or having sex, it's an innocent little kiss!!! How bad can it be?
Art_Critic Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I not only think it is a great idea but I think it is required if the relationship is to progress further. Every GF/Wife or relationship that I have had since I started dating when I was a teen ALL had in common the fact that I kissed them on the first date.. I have never had a relationship with a woman that I waited till later to kiss her.. They have all fizzled out before progressing.. I think it is because a relationship goes forward because of chemistry and if the chemistry is there a kiss happens. If the kiss has to be forced later on then the chemistry isn't there... This is of course only my experience...
missdependant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 It's fine. I just can't say I agree with putting out on the first date, unless you're just out looking for a lay.
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 yes do it. if you can't read body language then just make sure you duck.
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