confusedcookie Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 JUST WONDERING IF I'M OVER REACTING TO THIS OR NOT. IT IS A SIGN HE DOESN'T LOVE ME?? i went to china for the first time to meet my bf's family (also first time). my friends flew in from canada for the last 6 days, and my bf agreed to be the driver and tour guide. i was going to stay at the hotel with my friends b/c we were going to go clubbing night, and my bf said "at any time you want to come home, phone me and i will come pick you up". we were 50 minutes away from home with me and my friends in the car, his bro told me to come home and drive him to work. he immediately agreed (without asking me), and dropped us off at the sidewalk, i admit, i said it was okay at that time, but really i was very upset with it. my friends and i were suppose to go clubbing that night but they feel asleep, so i decided to call him to come take me to night market. (and go home, but i didn't tell him that). turns out he was playing " 4 person poker" (granted, i sarcastically told him to play poker when i went clubbing, he probably didn't get the sarcasm). i said okay, then sent a text saying "i really want you to be here, and take me to night market, can you do that for me please?". he phoned back saying he couldn't stop the game, and i sent an angry text saying, "if you could leave me and my friends for your brother, why can't you leave your 3 friends for me?" he phoned back, and told me he couldn't leave, and by then i was crying (bawling actually) and i said i understand, i'm so sorry and hung up. this was at 1130pm i expected him to at least check up on me with a phone or maybe come over to see me after his poker game. NOTHING. (extra info: poker finished at 6am) i just think that if he actually cared, he would have phoned. his reason was that: -he didn't want to leave, b/c his friends will think badly of me -he thought i was playing games, and was pissed; therefore, didn't call me back/needed to cool off -he needed face in front of his friends -he didn't want them to hear our phone conversation (i asked, why couldn't you phone me in the bathroom? and he said that he didn't know how to face me at that time since i was mad and he was scared) excuses? or does he really care? do i have a right to be upset, or was it my fault? does this mean he doesn't care about me or just a mistake?
Geishawhelk Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I don't know how many threads you've posted on this guy, but it sounds as if you're desperate for others to do all your thinking for you. What is it you want to hear?? You've been told - more than once - It's not going to work. Enough now!! Give him up, find someone on your cultural level. Leave him to his. So go to it!
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