hotdancer2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Urban Dictionary definition: Mary slept with Bob on Friday night. Mary got the after sex phone call on Saturday afternoon. Bob likes Mary enough to consider her girlfriend potential. Jane slept with Danny on Friday night. Jane got the after sex phone call on Monday night. Danny wants to keep having sex with Jane, but doesn't consider her girlfriend potential. Betty slept with Steve on Friday night. Betty got the after sex phone call from Steve the next Friday afternoon at work. Steve wants to sleep with Betty when he feels like it. Doris slept with Frank on Friday night. Doris never got Frank's after sex phone call and won't. Frank forgot Doris' name as soon as he got her into bed. Now, what if Mary slept with Bob on Saturday night and Bob texts her (small talk about work, weather etc.) once on Sunday and once on Monday and then calls on Tuesday night? Same scenario but Wednesday night? Where do text messages fit in to all this?
2sure Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Oh, I get it. Doris and Danny arrive at station B 30 minutes before Jane and Frank leave station A. The answer is: Blue Shoes.
fishtaco Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Text messages generally is considered more casual. But with younger people that may not be the case, since texting seems to be part of their culture. So how old was the guy? Did he communicate with you using text msg even before you had sex? Seems like he contacted you (either txt or call) everyday after the sex. Obviously it's no guarantee, but that's not a bad sign. Um... oh yeah, by "you" I meant "Mary".
Author hotdancer2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 He was 30, and yes, he had texted me before. Glad to hear it looks good, for mary that is.
fishtaco Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Whoa, I didn't say it looks good, I just said it's not necessarily a bad thing. If his way of communication (txt, call, whatever) hasn't changed compared to before the sex, then you're probably at least at the same spot as before, i.e. he's probably not doing the bang and leave thing. But that doesn't guarantee it will move forward. It doesn't mean it won't either. Just don't read too much into it, and don't assume anything, good or bad. It is what it is, and that's it. This is not Mr. Crush/Mr. Friend is it? I remember you said he's multi-dating and you don't like that, so you're just going to stay friends, and apparently friends that make out with each other. Don't get me wrong, sex is good. I would call for all women to start having sex with everyone, preferably me, but you want to make sure you're not putting yourself in a bad situation. Because bottom line, you can't use sex to get a relationship out of a man that doesn't want it.
Author hotdancer2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 I don't want a relationship either (not right now), so it works. I want to date around and experience (sexually and otherwise) and make friends and line up guys with potential for future relationsips. I'll probably want a relationship once I get settled in to whatever city I decide to live in (in a year). I want to be loved, but sometimes friends can love you more than bad boyfriends. I actually trust Mr. Friend to be there for me more than I trusted my ex. So I want all the love and friendship and sex but without being tied down and drama. Like a hippy I guess. Free love. I do want us to continue to be friends, ideally long term friends, so that is why I was checking about the text thing. I don't regret sleeping with him, and I'd do it again. But most important is our friendship.
Green Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I wouldn't pay attention to the calling thing. When I was in college I slept with a girl who I thought was so pretty and really liked her and didn't want to seem needs so thought it would be a good idea to just not call her till some other day. Well she called me crying asking why I didn't call. I have since learned of the day after sex call rule and I have always followed it since... but seriously he may not no about the rule or be thinking about it. Kind of a silly game actualy. His actions will speak louder then if he calls you the next day... If he is there for you, and has earned your trust and doesn't betray it shouldn't matter when he calls
Author hotdancer2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 Ok, thanks green! That makes sense. I haven't been single in a while and just wasn't sure if it was a widely accepted rule that is a big no no to break. Like slamming the door in a woman's face instead of opening it for her, or something. I'm cool with everything, and I'm definitely not crying. It seems that the rule is not as widely accepted as I thought. Just wanted to make sure I'm not missing something here.
fishtaco Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I don't want a relationship either (not right now), so it works. I want to date around and experience (sexually and otherwise) and make friends and line up guys with potential for future relationsips. I'll probably want a relationship once I get settled in to whatever city I decide to live in (in a year). I want to be loved, but sometimes friends can love you more than bad boyfriends. I actually trust Mr. Friend to be there for me more than I trusted my ex. So I want all the love and friendship and sex but without being tied down and drama. Like a hippy I guess. Free love. I do want us to continue to be friends, ideally long term friends, so that is why I was checking about the text thing. I don't regret sleeping with him, and I'd do it again. But most important is our friendship. Sure, you have the right to pursue whatever you want. And it's important to know what you want instead of what other people or even the society says you should want. So be hippy and enjoy free love, if that's what you want. Sex is great, when it's not taken out of context to mean something it's not. As long as you know that, have fun and enjoy.
Author hotdancer2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 Hehe I will thanks!! Just to clarify, long term friendship is definitely something I value, and I wouldn't sleep with someone unless I thought we were going to be good friends.
kdark Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Hmmm, does this mean I need to call myself? Jill is usually a pretty self sufficient girl.
Author hotdancer2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 Mary decides that if Bob does not want to sleep with her again then he must be retarded since she is very hot. Bob emails Mary on Wednesday afternoon and invites her to sleep with him on Friday. Mary is very, very happy.
Geishawhelk Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Bob is obviously short for 'Blues On Board' (the train, silly... it's at the station isn't it?) Aaaahhh.... But is it a fast train, or does it make stops? I think we should be told. And now, back to Mary in the studio.
Author hotdancer2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Author Posted March 5, 2009 Bob is obviously short for 'Blues On Board' (the train, silly... it's at the station isn't it?) Aaaahhh.... But is it a fast train, or does it make stops? I think we should be told. And now, back to Mary in the studio. Huh? Geish, you lost me.
Sith Apprentice Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 As a rules guy I don't call women after sex and I rarely return their calls.
Geishawhelk Posted March 5, 2009 Posted March 5, 2009 Huh? Geish, you lost me. Don't worry. You're not alone. (2sure and I are just having a little guessing game of our own. Forget it. )
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