hereandnow Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 My ex gf and I dated for months. I'm 27, she's 33. It's been over now for 4 months. In the past few days I've run into her a few times. We both run in the same circles, so it's kind of hard not to. For a while I was avoiding her, but recently I've gone back to my usual routines, which often means I bump into her. Anyway, I suspect she's thinking about dating a friend of mine. Or, for all I know, they're dating and just trying to hide the fact from me. I may be paranoid, but I've often been right about this kind of thing. I figure my first step is just to go back to as little contact as possible, if not no contact. Take the whole seeing her talking to such and such c*** out of the equation. I'm concerned, though, that one of them may approach me eventually and ask if I'm okay with them dating, or tell me that they're dating, something like that. If it's her asking me I plan on getting pretty pissed at her. If it's him I think I'd just let him know that if he goes down that road I don't consider him a friend of mine anymore. I was doing pretty well with the breakup (still am doing pretty good) but this just adds a new emotional wrinkle. Any feedback/support appreciated. I know some of you have been down this same road.
stovepipe Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I know i couldn't be friends with someone that did that....bro's before ho's in my circle of friends.
openbook08 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 and hos before bros in my situation.. or whatever the female equivalent for that sayin is!! im too tired to try to figure it out...maybe i got it right! anyway... id find it very difficult if this happened is this friend a good friend?? ie one you may have confided in during rship or one you socilaise with regularly?? that kinda thing...
lonetiger Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 he is not your friend if he is moving in on your ex...a true friend would never do tht. maybe he had his eye on her the entire time you guys were dating...hmmmm makes you really think about who you can trust. say good-bye to them both..cause it is clear tht they are totally not thinking about you in doing this....if they are together.
Author hereandnow Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 I've known the guy a couple years. We hang out, go out to eat with people, see movies, stuff like that. Once I took him and picked him up when he had some surgery. Anyway, that may give you an idea. Not really one of my best friends. Post-breakup I did confide in him somewhat regarding the fact that I didn't want to be in the same place as my ex and what I thought about this idiot she briefly dated, so he knows I'm touchy about the whole thing. Of course, there's the whole "if she's willing to date a friend of mine then she's not really the kind of person I would want to be with" aspect to this too. And, like I said, I'm not even sure this is happening. Anyway, all responses appreciated!
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 He is definitely not a friend if he has thoughts of dating your ex. You don't have to approach him to find out because obviously in your circle of friends, if they know, they will be a friend and inform you of what they know. Stick with the no contact with her. Seems like you were doing just fine. Good luck and keep up posted.
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