Anyone ever get back with their Ex? Ever have the X-Effect?

[Not the love ace]

Well, its been about two months since me and my girlfriend had broken up, and about 2 weeks since she got with her new boyfriend.

 

Initially she didn't tell me about this guy but I knew for a while. I was upset she rebounded so quickly and we argued for about a week on this situation. She went with him because they have classes together and see each other everyday. Since me and her break up, I see her maybe once or twice a month since I live 3 hours away.

 

Like I said we argued and I was irate that she lied to me for a long time about this guy. During the time she still told me she loved me and confessed her feelings for me. I did the same and I we still had a relationship going on and were about to see each other again.

 

However, she went out with him and all hell broke loose but, we finally reconciled and she finally apologized for her wrong-doing and for leading me on after a long week and a half of arguing. I accepted the apology and we both confessed our love for each other.

 

She told me she loves him but isn't in-love with him and is still in love with me. She said she's with him mainly because he's there and comforts her (especially during the arguments between me and her) and because she enjoys being around him. She told me that she's still in love with me and enjoys my company much more and she still wants to see me.

 

I told her I still want to see her as well but warned her that if she's with me its not going to be easy for her to be faithful. We made up and in the end she basically says she never wants to lose me, and never wants to lose our relationship because she truly cares for me and loves the time's she spent with me and doesn't want to forget them.

 

I feel the exact same way for her and I don't want to lose her since in-the-end we have a tight-bond. As much as I do believe her and feel she's sincere, and we made a date to see each other in 2-3 weeks, I decided to actually go no-contact with her for maybe a month or two.

 

I still feel really jealous and a little hurt and think I need to just not have any contact with her. At the same time I don't want to have no contact and she becomes closer and love the guy more and forgets about me.

 

However I believe that if she does loves me like she says she does, and doesn't want to forget me, then she'll make the effort to contact me if she truly feels that way. I think I might be giving her too much attention and I think she should make an effort.

 

So is it a good idea to go NC for a little bit? Then If she does try to contact me multiple times, I'll get back to her and at least try to win her back.

 

Whats the best thing to do? I really truly want her back and I know that me and her still have chemistry between each other and I don't want anyone to break it.

 

Is it possible to get her back? Have any of you gotten your ex back? Also, do you think she'll completely forget about me? Though I don't think anyone can forget someone they love so much at all. Please leave any advice and stories you may want to share.

 

Thank you.

[playlislay]

Pfft! Personally I wouldnt risk NC for 1 or 2 months! I know how quickly you can forget abot someone in a couple of months. Its like the feeling of being with them just fades out. You still know in your mind that you love this person dearly, but you are forgetting that special feeling that you get when you were with them. You still cry over them every now and then, but you start to slip into a life without them. You get used to it.

Im talking from the side of a person that was dumped in December. Not someone who is actually in contact with their recent ex in the way that you two are.

 

I wish I was in your shoes, I really do. Good luck!

[Not the love ace]

Pfft! Personally I wouldnt risk NC for 1 or 2 months! I know how quickly you can forget abot someone in a couple of months. Its like the feeling of being with them just fades out. You still know in your mind that you love this person dearly, but you are forgetting that special feeling that you get when you were with them. You still cry over them every now and then, but you start to slip into a life without them. You get used to it.

Im talking from the side of a person that was dumped in December. Not someone who is actually in contact with their recent ex in the way that you two are.

 

I wish I was in your shoes, I really do. Good luck!

 

 

So what should I do? I really don't want to lose her, and I know for a FACT I'm not going to forget about her but fear she'll forget about me since she has a boyfriend and all. At the same time I feel that I'm probably giving her too much attention, and I'm not that important to her like I used to be. But she's just as important to me as ever.

[jwi71]

... she'll forget about me since she has a boyfriend and all... and I'm not that important to her like I used to be...

 

Isn't that all the answer you need?

 

She HAS moved on with her life and you have not.

 

My advice, stop obsessing over what was and move on yourself.

 

You cannot see the future if you are always looking at the past.