Els Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 When the 'infatuation/honeymoon' phase is over, when they start putting in less effort and so do you, and you both do try but still cannot help but notice the decline because everything isn't new and exciting anymore, and when the rose-tinted glasses fall off... What then? Is it normal, do we get used to it? I never really made it past this phase, to be honest, never had a relationship that lasted more than a few years. After hitting this phase, they all began to spiral into a horrible downturn... What's the secret of happy married couples?
Geishawhelk Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Acceptance and compromise. Why do people not get that a relationship is a moveable feast? Nothing ever stays the same, but you have to adapt and move with the shifting sands. People change, circumstances change, tastes change, looks change, health changes - nothing, but nothing ever stays on a level field. It's called Effort - and if people csan't be bothered to make the effort, maybe they should view LTRs as something not for them. Simple.
JackJack Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I think most of the "honeymoon phase" does dwindle after awhile. However, that is not a bad thing. Its about being more conmfortable in the marriage. BUT that is where alot of couples run into problems because just because you're comfortable doesn't mean you stop trying, and that start taking each other for granted. Lots of couples will hit bumps in the road during a marriage. That's just part of it, thats just part of life, period. I think the key to a good marriage, is communication. Letting the other person know how you feel and be upfront and honest. When someone can do that and have a spouse that can to, and returns that, then its somewhat easier I think. Marriage is work. If people do not want to do the work, they have no business being married IMO.
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