tanbark813 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Tanbark!........... I haven't seen you around. Just haven't posted much lately for no real reason.
jerbear Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 You did put a picture of yourself as your avvie once. You are pretty so that is ONE reason why guys would stare with their tongues out. As another poster mentioned, it could be the toilet paper, a missing button on your blouse, your skirt is up due to static cling, or that you are just pretty.
fishtaco Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 MEN ARE PERVY. So? What's your point? Why don't you be pervy back at them? Then the world will become a happy place.
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 There are creepy looks and respectful looks. The former give me the willies, the latter is okay.
Peter_pan Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 is it just any guys or married men? would you mind if a young good looking single guy did it?
Green Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I am a very perverted man so I guess I am reasonably suited to answer this question and suposedly in the past I have made women uncomfortable with my gaze. I maybe the horniest man alive but there are some things I have no control over and looking is one of them. Geez so they looked at you and in a way disrespected you maybe imagined you naked in their head... well you need to get over it seriously this hatred of men is going to get you no where good fast. For me this kind of **** is like the jerk who came to a quick stop at the yellow light... it pisses me off for a sec the light turns green in a min or two and I get out from behind the driver. Don't let it get to you, I mean this is kind of funny thread but I hope some guys who stared at you a little to long in a fast food joint don't ruin your day or week for that matter.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Oh well, he can look at you all he wants, and imagine tossing that ass like there's no tomorrow, and there isn't **** you can do about it. You miss the key point here. It's not about me. It's about the lack of dignity and respect he is bringing his wife and own family. Okay, was his wife there? Did you notice a ring? Could he have been divorced or widowed? Nope. Wife wasn't there. His little girls where. Sure you could have been divorced or widowed, but I have seen too many men out with their wives and girlfriends that do look/lear.. And seriously, it goes back to those men just not having much respect for their partner and disrespecting her in favor of the new eye candy. That's what they are selling it out for. Some men actually look at men and women out of interest and without a sexual intent. Some men look at women in appreciation of their beauty and are NOT thinking of having sex with them. Some men simply look at women and are grateful that their wife looks so much better. For sure, I have no doubt of that. But as a woman. You know more times then not when a man is looking at you objectively or with a sexual intent. If God didn't want men to check out chicks' tatas he wouldn't have given us eyes. Or them tatas. Ummm, God gave women "tatas" to breast-feed.
johan Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 It's the myth of eye-contact. Somehow the "look from afar", across the room, ending in everlasting love became the M.O. for guys who either don't have the courage to chat or understand that it's not the time or place to do so.
Peter_pan Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 for me unless they are all dressed up in a night club, if i saw an attractive lady in the street i would try and make eye contact but not in a creepy way at all; i certainly wouldnt stare at them or there bits
Citizen Erased Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 If God didn't want men to check out chicks' tatas he wouldn't have given us eyes. Or them tatas. Thus spoke Tanbark, a wise and wonderful man.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 for me unless they are all dressed up in a night club, if i saw an attractive lady in the street i would try and make eye contact but not in a creepy way at all; i certainly wouldnt stare at them or there bits You sir, rock. That's the way to do it.
confused_2008 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 There are creepy looks and respectful looks. The former give me the willies, the latter is okay. I'm wondering, as a guy here, what's the difference? Is it a subconscious thing that if I'm thinking of her naked that I'll come off as creepy and I think of her in a church pew I'm looking respectfully, or can I think of her naked and still give a respectful look? Wow... lame post but I'm curious
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I'm wondering, as a guy here, what's the difference? Is it a subconscious thing that if I'm thinking of her naked that I'll come off as creepy and I think of her in a church pew I'm looking respectfully, or can I think of her naked and still give a respectful look? Wow... lame post but I'm curious Since I can't read anyone's mind, who knows what's going on in your head? All I know is that there's an over-familiarity in the look. It doesn't matter if it's from a good-looking or average man, married or single, regardless, it's too familiar. Also, lingering on body parts is crude.
samspade Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 In fairness to the OP, I get that there is a difference between looking and leering. I've seduced my share of females and I've learned over time how to take in the female form without looking like a 13-year-old gawker, and in a way that they appreciate it and aren't put off by it. Be that as it may, I've been leered at myself (by women and other men; I live in NYC, after all). Maybe not as often as the average girl, but I know when it's happening. You know what I do? Ignore it. And one person's glance is another's leer. If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, then beholding is also in the eye of the beheld.
Sam Spade Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I don't leer. I've got a somewhat disengaged grumpy look that makes women wonder "Is he mad at me?", and while they wonder, I have enough time to perform the inspection and flash a smile if it turns out to be worth it.
Isolde Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 There are creepy looks and respectful looks. The former give me the willies, the latter is okay. Yes, I agree that beholding can be in the eyes of the beheld, but overall I think the beholder's perspective informs how he comes across. If he's thinking you're a cute girl and look like his "Type" his glance will prob just come across friendly... That overfamiliarity thing doesn't happen often, but when it does its pretty creepy because it feels like they like you but in a totally wrong way.
Throne Of Lies Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Some chick's don't mind leering though. Drunk cougars at bars especially. If they see a young hot guy leering at their parts, they are going to be on him like a mountain lion on a fat kid wearing a meat tuxedo. True Story. I was there.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I don't like it. But I am not gay. It disgusts me. Are you a lesbian? If not, your analogy makes no sense. LOL - it makes sense because guys on this thread are getting defensive that girls are complaining at guys staring at them. How would you like the guys staring at YOU, instead. I get what you're saying, but I was trying to help the defensive guys to understand the level of annoyance.
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 when it does its pretty creepy because it feels like they like you but in a totally wrong way.Like is too gentle a word. There's no like in the look. Creepy to the max!
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I work at the airport at my new job and wear a nice uniform when i greet female passengers and they flirt with me....Hard!!!! lol. Now it's weird to be stared at and they say my name all funny. But you know what even though it's weird getting hit on it's nice to know they want you. At least your not ugly. Like today this woman was touching my sholder telling me her age, asking me if she was still pretty, telling me young women aint got nothing on her! I was like wow. Sexual harrasment anyone? lol. Anyway's be happy about it. former stripper huh? still got your figure, can you wonder why they're leering at you, smile about it!
kdark Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I work at the airport at my new job and wear a nice uniform when i greet female passengers and they flirt with me....Hard!!!! lol. Now it's weird to be stared at and they say my name all funny. But you know what even though it's weird getting hit on it's nice to know they want you. At least your not ugly. Like today this woman was touching my sholder telling me her age, asking me if she was still pretty, telling me young women aint got nothing on her! I was like wow. Sexual harrasment anyone? lol. That's hilarious. I used to get called "muscles" at my old job. Girls would just randomly come up behind me and start rubbing my biceps. It was flattering for the first like, day. But quickly became annoying.
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Maybe this thread needs a new title. "People are so pervy. Go perv elsewhere!"
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Good point, CB. I hate it when women stare at your crotch. It's like they're willing it to pop out, or something. If women want to be snake charmers, then practice in private, please. OMG I remember a funny story when i was younger and I went to work wearing these very tight security guard pants and it was so early in the morning. I just got cleaned and dressed but i had a hard on that would sit down and I readjusted myself to twist it sideways. I aint packing but i could do damage! and this cute old spanish lady dropped her groceries and when i was about to kneel down to help her she saw it and for 15 seconds her eyes fixated on my jimmy and her jaw dropped, eyes frozen!!! I had to snap my fingers and bring her back to attention! if that isnt embarrasing? I dont know what is!!! lol. Men aint the only one's who leer!
tanbark813 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Thus spoke Tanbark, a wise and wonderful man. You are too kind.
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