Knight_Ctrl Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I know I haven't been on for a while, since I got fired I feel like I've finally failed in every aspect of my life. My girl left me for my friend, I failed out of college, and I've lost my job. Every single day I feel horrible, and at least once a day I just sit around and cry, I still miss my ex and it just sets me off. I have no motivation to do anything I can hardly play video games, which if I'm doing anything is all I can do. I know what I need to do...I just can't get around to doing it.
gavinus Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 My advice for what its worth is you need to be busy!! I have been through unemployment, breakups etc, and the worse thing for me was doing nothing but think and think and think!! It drives you nuts!! Look for another job, its probably too soon for another girlfriend, start a course of study, anything to show you that life goes on and it will get better,
GoneButNotForgotten Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Something you may want to think about is getting a certification in something or other. Take a topic you are interested in or always wanted to know more about and look and see what is available. Recently I started to study for my A+ Certification. It helps me keep busy and is something of use. You can pick it up and put it down as you need to.
Butterfly01 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I feel for you -- I don't have any magic answers, all I can tell you is what helped me. Take time to grieve your relationship, you're entitled to do that. But as hard as it is, try to get out once in a while with a friend -- you may not be ready for all out partying, but try baby steps -- going out for coffee or to a movie. The busier you are, the less time you have to think. I'm sorry about your job -- I've been there, and in the last month 3 of my friends just got laid off. Even in this economy there are jobs out there -- I work in HR and the best way to find something new is networking -- talk to family, friends, etc and let them know you're looking. This could also be a time to really think about what you want to do -- possibly start taking new courses to change fields. It could be a new beginning for you. All these things happening at once is tough to deal with, but what I've found is that everyone is a lot stronger than they think they are. You'll get through this!
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I'm sorry that you are going through this all at once. First and foremost get out of bed and start looking for a job...let that be your motivation to move on. Keep your spirits up!!!! As for college, you will always have an opportunity to go back and fix your mistakes. As for your ex...I know that it is hard, trust me, but you are stronger than you think. Tell yourself that you love yourself first before loving anyone else...place quotes around room to motivate you to get out of this funk you are in. If there was a way to turn back time and change things, that would be great but there isn't so we just have to focus on the future. She is your past and you need to look ahead and as hard as it sounds, time will heal, I promise. Delete photos of your ex, any letters or anything from her get rid of NOW!!!! Go to job sites (online or even on newspapers) and start looking for employment, even if it's something at the mall, because I guarantee you that being busy at work will help you. Talk to friends or family because bottling it up will make it worse (trust me, I know from experience). Staying in your place all day will make it worse, trust me. Tell yourself that today is a new day!!! Don't look back.
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