Khabarak Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I understand looks are not everything, but I feel this is mostly true AFTER you meet and talk to someone. There has to be some kind of initial attraction, and I think in a most cases that initial attraction is physical attraction. Maybe I'm wrong, but when you don't know someone there isn't much else to go on. I don't feel like I'm ugly or anything, but I want to know... Will my looks get me somewhere with some/most women, or am I just average looking? All I'm really after is a confirmation that I'm attractive enough that most women are going to give me a chance to prove I'm worth knowing. I have posted a picture here. Please be honest, but don't be insensitive. And please, leave off anything about how insecure I must be. I'm not trying to deny anything, but I'm really just asking for some outside opinions.
Yamaha Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 If you don't believe in your value then it will be hard on you because you're basing your value on other people's opinions. Look in the mirror and know you're attractive and then go out and project that confidence. Sexy is knowing someone finds you attractive and desires you. If you show that to the girl that you have interest in she will at least notice you and admire your courage. You might not get that girl but if you show yourself as having value then some girl will notice and be interested. Basing your value by others is a no win situation. By the way, there is nothing wrong with your looks.
Citizen Erased Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Yes you are attractive. More so than pretty much anyone that comes on here and asks that question. Excuse my ignorance but what is it that your arm is leaning on?
Citizen Erased Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 OMG!!!! :love: Well there you go. Token gay guy thinks you're hot, you're all set dear.
Author Khabarak Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 To Yamaha: It isn't that I don't believe in my value, it is just that I would like to have some reassurance that maybe some other people do as well. Regardless of that fact, it isn't really my value that I'm asking about here -- I'm quite confident that I'm a worthwhile person to know. I just wanted some feedback about my physical attractiveness. To me, those are two different traits. Also, thanks for your input. To Citizen Erased: Thank you for your input. That is reassuring to hear. And to answer you question: It is an old farm implement of some kind... a mower I think.
Citizen Erased Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 To Citizen Erased: Thank you for your input. That is reassuring to hear. And to answer you question: It is an old farm implement of some kind... a mower I think. Not a problem. Now what is the reason behind you asking this? Bad breakup? Something someone said? Just feeling a little unsure today?
kashmir Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 If you don't believe in your value then it will be hard on you because you're basing your value on other people's opinions. Look in the mirror and know you're attractive and then go out and project that confidence. Sexy is knowing someone finds you attractive and desires you. If you show that to the girl that you have interest in she will at least notice you and admire your courage. You might not get that girl but if you show yourself as having value then some girl will notice and be interested. Basing your value by others is a no win situation. By the way, there is nothing wrong with your looks. Very true, but sometimes people just need a little push from others. You would be lying if you said you're totally uninfluenced by others. The guy just wants a little feedback. As long as he doesn't obsess over it, I think he's ok. Khabarak, I'm a straight guy so I can't tell you if you look attractive, but I don't see why some women wouldn't find you attractive.
Star Gazer Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Objectively, you are very attractive. Based on looks alone, I'd say most women would give you a chance. Your approach, personality, etc., can lessen that chance. But I don't sense anything that would do that.
Athena Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Am I attractive? I understand looks are not everything, but I feel this is mostly true AFTER you meet and talk to someone. There has to be some kind of initial attraction, and I think in a most cases that initial attraction is physical attraction. Maybe I'm wrong, but when you don't know someone there isn't much else to go on. I have posted a picture here. Please be honest, but don't be insensitive. Yes, you are. That initial attraction you speak of as being necessary to be desired, by the way, is WAY more important to guys, than to girls.... this is because guys are hardwired to be Visual creatures, and girls are hardwired to be auditory -- so What You Say to them makes ALL the difference. Regardless, when I look at you I see a well-turned out, radiant, healthy, young man. Your mama must be proud of you! (lol) Okay, your build is fine, you look tall too (are you? always a Plus), you appear to have nice skin, and white straight teeth. Do you know that beauty is about symmetry? Well, you score nicely on that -- eyes, ears, etc all where they should be lol. I think you can signal your attraction to a girl by looking her in the eyes with confidence... listen well and focus on her, not on yourself. Another point is posture -- carry yourself with a straight back, shoulders back and relaxed down, and face the pretty girl you like, and smile. How could she resist? hmm You're fine, now go get 'em.
Yamaha Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Very true, but sometimes people just need a little push from others. You would be lying if you said you're totally uninfluenced by others. The guy just wants a little feedback. As long as he doesn't obsess over it, I think he's ok. Khabarak, I'm a straight guy so I can't tell you if you look attractive, but I don't see why some women wouldn't find you attractive.[/quote I didn't know his state of mind so I was trying to cover all the bases.
Athena Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Oh, and btw, if you type the words Rate Hot Guys on Google -- there are many sites that you can post your picture on and get hundreds of ratings...
stepka Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Yeah, sweet young thing from Missouri, my home state, but alas, much too young for me! You don't look like you'd appeal to the girl who likes the macho swaggering types, but that can only be a plus in my book.
chrislovestosurf Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 coming from a STRAIGHT male, you're fine dude. do you have an edge to you? Are you the stereotypical nice guy that is really shy? I know girls that would dig you as long as you have something unique going for you, you know how to dress, and you arent a pushover.
chrislovestosurf Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 and if you really want to add to your look, go outside this summer with some six pack abs and toned arms. That will give you a lot more sex appeal(of course the rest is up to your personality). You look thin so it would be no problem to get really cut up for the summer. Go hit those weights!
shadowplay Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Yes, you're cute. Honestly! The one flaw I notice is your ears stick out a bit. If I'm going to be totally superficial, you probably wouldn't catch my eye, but not because there's anything wrong with your features. It has to do with your style. You look too All-American, vanilla, boring. Of course you may be an amazing, unique guy, but that's just my "blink" reaction based on your overall appearance. I'm sure some women go for that look, but I think others like men who stand out in some way. At my university you would completely blend into a crowd. Try bringing more "edge" to your appearance. Adopt more of a swagger. Highlight things about yourself that are unusual. Then again you live in Missouri, so if stereotypes are true the women you're trying to attract may go for the vanilla look. I still think you could play up the macho thing a bit.
darby1 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 You are cute! add some charisma and you've got it goin' on!
Citizen Erased Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Yes, you're cute. Honestly! The one flaw I notice is your ears stick out a bit. If I'm going to be totally superficial, you probably wouldn't catch my eye, but not because there's anything wrong with your features. It has to do with your style. You look too All-American, vanilla, boring. Of course you may be an amazing, unique guy, but that's just my "blink" reaction based on your overall appearance. I'm sure some women go for that look, but I think others like men who stand out in some way. At my university you would completely blend into a crowd. Try bringing more "edge" to your appearance. Adopt more of a swagger. Highlight things about yourself that are unusual. Then again you live in Missouri, so if stereotypes are true the women you're trying to attract may go for the vanilla look. I still think you could play up the macho thing a bit. Perhaps that's why I would find him so attractive, no Aussie guy looks like that.
Trialbyfire Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 No insult intended but if he were to play up any macho quality, it would probably come across as fake. If he's going to play anything up, it should be his strengths, such as his boyish quality. There's a sweetness and cuteness about him, that will appeal to certain women. If he displays a wittiness or quick mind behind it, chicks are going to dig him.
Isolde Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 The nice thing about you is that you look approachable and cute at the same time. Lookswise, there's nothing to worry about. Also, macho is really overrated... I imagine that your boy-next-door demeanor, if coupled with good conversational ability, could attract many women.
shadowplay Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 If he displays a wittiness or quick mind behind it, chicks are going to dig him. I think that would be the most effective. Macho was probably the wrong word choice. I just mean that he looks a bit safe and vanilla.
Lizzie60 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I think you're sweet... You look very 'normal', approachable.. Although you're not my type, I think you will do OK with women...
chrislovestosurf Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I think that would be the most effective. Macho was probably the wrong word choice. I just mean that he looks a bit safe and vanilla. What is this vanilla stuff? I agree with you about looking safe though, I can see what you mean by all american though. We dont know how he dresses when he goes out though. I would say grow your hair out some more, try a new style with it. I can see you rocking the kenneth cole look. But we are also talking strictly first impressions. Summer is coming. You want women to drool? Then you need to look hot with your shirt off or in a t-shirt. Thin guys have it made, we can get ripped to shreds without looking like muscle heads. That is the one edge you can have over the next guy. Abs go a looooong way with women trust me. Get into a good 4-5 day weight lifting/cardio routine. I say this because I dont consider myself to have a very attractive face but I do have very good genetics and good body. Not saying you arent attractive but if a woman were to think your face was 'eh,' then having a great body would certainly help.
AGBourne Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 From straight man to another man, you are good looking dude. Actually looks don't matter. Confidence, assertiveness, dominance and high self-esteem makes man more sexy and good-looking. Start working on your inner game, your self-esteem and confidence. All else will take care of itself. If you need more help where to go and what to do pm me.
Yamaha Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I just mean that he looks a bit safe and vanilla. You're really saying he looks boring and has no edge or flair.
collegekid491 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 If your asking the question, it means you have zero confidence, which is probably a bigger factor in getting a gf then your actual looks. I used to be the scrawniest guy ever and I had no problem getting a hot date(given, junior high was different), now that I actually have filled out and am a good looking dude... I still don't have a problem. I've never gotten a date by standing on a street corner waiting to be approached because I look hot... in fact, I'm pretty sure its illegal lol.
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