lostinlove23 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 My boyfriend of just about 6 months decides to tell me that he wants to take some sort of break. This happened about 3 weeks ago. In this conversation he told me that I was not losing him, that we would still talk and see each other, and that he just needed some time to figure some things out. He said that he is bitter and angry towards his last relationship and has been taking it out on me and treating me like crap. Once he gets past this we can be together and he will treat me how I deserve to be treated. He told me that he still loves me and wants to be with me. He wants me to be supportive and I am trying so hard but this is not what I want. As for the talking and seeing each other, it hasn't happened (at all). We work together so we do "see" each other at the office. But other than that nothing. A couple weeks ago I asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he said yes but that he needed to get past this first. He also said that he didn't know how long it would take, that I could see other people if I wanted and that he hoped I would still be there when he was ready. However, we don't talk. People are telling me to leave him alone. To stop texting and trying to talk to him. Absence makes the heart grow fonder apparently. So, taking this advice I haven't text him since last Wednesday and we have not spoken since last Thursday. This is killing me. I don't know what he wants and what I'm supposed to do or think. Today he didn't say 1 word to me. It was basically like I didn't exist. It was awful and it only makes me feel worse. He has never lied and I do trust him so I want to believe that when he tells me he still wants me but it's getting harder to. I don't know what to do... Does anybody have any advice for we?? I'm told to leave him alone and he will come to me. What should I do???
pandagirl Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Leave him alone. In my opinion, if someone says: "go ahead and date other people if you want" it is NOT a good sign. You don't want to share someone you want to be with!
EYECANDY000 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 It seems like the relationship is laready done in his eyes. He doesnt acknowledge you at work, doesnt initate call/text, and has told you to go ahead and see other people. If he really sincerely cared and wanted to take a small break then he wouldnt tell you to see other people. No one wants to think about their SO being intimate with someone else. I think this guy is done , Stick a fork in him!!!!!!!
colosseum Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 As soon as any form of "break" appears, it's usually not for the better. Especially if he said you should see other people. Heartbreak always sucks, and I wish you the best of luck. But my advice? Leave him, forget him, move on; you're better than this guy who's not even man enough to be honest with you.
AGBourne Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Break = Breakup. Don't over think this. Break also means, wait around till I screw other people and you shall be my backup if I don't find anything. Never wait. ANyone says "Lets take a break", say "Yes, lets break up."
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Yes - time to move on and date other people. While he's "getting over his past," you may actually find somebody quality to take your mind off of him - which would be a good thing as I don't think he's deserving of your attentions. But definitely, the more you try to initiate contact and show him you're still interested, the less he will be interested in you.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 He also said that he didn't know how long it would take, that I could see other people if I wanted and that he hoped I would still be there when he was ready. Translation: He is interested in someone else, or is already seeing her. If he was really interested in being back together with you, he would not run the risk of losing you to someone else. He is hoping you will find someone else so that he won't have to be the 'bad guy'.
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