GoneButNotForgotten Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Some of you know the girl broke it off with me in December. I have been NC since and am fine with it now. Well her dad and my dad and uncle are good friends. My dad and uncle came down to Tx to visit and watch some of my sister's softball games and stuff. And me being me got stuck being the unofficial chauffeur/drinking partner. Well her dad is actually a pretty fun guy and is just getting out of a divorce and stuff. He and I get along just fine and had a great time. I'm half worried that he will talk to her about me and crap when the whole thing had nothing to do with her. I was just out having fun with family and a guy that is fun to hang out with. After this amount of time I don't want her back anymore, she made her choice and I am ok with it. Would this be construed as trying to manipulate my way back into her life or something? I'm feel much better off not even really recognizing her existence. I have no desire to be friends with her and NC works just fine for me. So basically, even though I had no manipulative intentions and was just out having a good time could this work back up the ladder to an issue?
stovepipe Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Does it really matter? I mean you've been NC...if she contacts you about it continue the NC. You said you don't want her as a friend or anything else so who cares who you hang out with or talk to. It seems like you're not really over her and you kind of want it to work its way up the ladder...I don't know...thats my take on it. If you honestly just want her out of your life thats all you. Stick with NC and everything will be fine.
citizen67 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Yeah worry about you. Period. There's a connection there, but that's not your fault. Don't even think about how she'll perceive it. Worry about you. Period.
Author GoneButNotForgotten Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 Ya I intended on sticking with NC. And I'm not completely over her, but am getting a lot better lately. You guys are right on just worrying about me and screw fallout because I didn't set up for any fallout. And at this point there is nothing she could do to me anyways. I guess I didn't even really think about it this passed weekend and had fun but all the sudden got worried that my healing would be messed up by it. Turns out, I felt just fine today and it really didn't hurt me at all.
xxscarredxx Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I say continue the NC as well. And don't be lured into a trap if someone happens to bring her name up in a conversation... I'm sure someone is dying to be the mule and go tell her what you've said.
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 I think that your fine. It's not like her dad is talking about you two or trying to get you back together. So don't worry.
Author GoneButNotForgotten Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 Sort of my thought LUF. I'm not worried about it anymore. I guess it was just a quick panic that I was going to regress. I don't really care what any of them do at this point. Just living my life for me and enjoying it.
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