MonroeVonOh Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago now and it has been much different than any other time we have broken up. The reasons as to why we would break up are situational and not that our personalities didn't match. I am younger than him and didn't feel I was ready to settle down and he also has a ex that he has a child with that always seems to cause trouble, there were money issues at the time and also we live in different cities so all these frustrations at the time took its toll and finally we decided to break up as the fights were getting too much for the both of us and the way our lives were , weren't working for on another at the time. I still love this man very much , I think about him every day and sent him a birthday gift for his birthday ( nothing big , just a card and a CD ) I try not to e-mail him and I am trying to move on and give each other some space but it always seems that we start talking for one reason or another. He owes me money that he is making payments on so he e-mails me to tell me that he is going to the bank , he thanked me for the gift and just little stuff like that. We keep it very brief this time around as before when we would break up we still talked everyday and then ended up getting back together. like i said this time is different , but I can't help but still feel that strong connection toward him like we have always shared and I know I am not crazy when I know that he feels it to in one way or another. So what do I do with all this? I am going to try NC until he contacts me first and still I don't even know what I will do. I wonder what he might be thinking with all of this? I mean , we still talk very little so we don't hate each other, maybe he is just bored or feels comfortable or I don't know . As you can tell I am very confused , I won't ask him how he feels , I don't want to know the answer , because if its bad then I will hurt , and if it's good , then I will want to see him. He has told me that " I am not seeing anyone , and I don't plan to" , " i still think about you everyday" and he even called me on his birthday , drunk mind you , and told me that he missed me. what do I do with all this ? Is this normal after a break up ? We were together and really close for a year and a half. This man is my first love and I know that I have been different than other girls for him as well. As you can tell I am really confused. Any insight whatsoever? Should I go on NC and see what he has to say?
Geishawhelk Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 No. Go No Contact and completely ignore anything he might have to say. That's the whole point of NC. You cut ties, and never speak to them again.
Author MonroeVonOh Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 I understand that but it's hard for me to do that when he sends me an e-mail, why does he still send me little e-mails like that? I think that maybe he wants to get back together? Or is it something else ? bleh , I hate this. Some times I get the feeling like this isn't over , anyone know what I mean ? Like we aren't " done" yet. Maybe that is just me.
Geishawhelk Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 It's called: "I'm sending you an e-mail to feed my ego because throwing you breadcrumbs, jerking your chain and thwapping you like a ball on an elasttic string tied to a bat, proves to me that all I gotta say is 'jump' and you ask 'how high?' " Go No contact, block him off e-mail, delete his address, remove his number off your mobile, and when he rings, make the call alert read - "do not answer!!" The only way you can move on - is to move on. 100%. Read any threads on No Contact and you'll see the format is identical for everyone who's been dumped. The dumped person tries to get on, the dumper keeps them dangling. Classic ego feed.
Author MonroeVonOh Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 yeah , I guess you are right now that I think about it. I mean , if he does really feel for me or want anything and want it ( me) bad enough , most people no matter how insecure or whatever , would bite the bullet and tell the other how they feel , other than just little " I think about you everyday still" type quibbles. thanks.
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