samspade Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 For example, my most recent ex whom I dumped called me 10 times in one day and I did not return one of his calls as I am a strong believer in 60 day NC because it has worked more than once for me. Him calling me and leaving angry, sad:lmao:, and pleading voicemails made him even less attractive to me and thoughts of getting back with him even farther away. I, the dumper made the decision to end things because I need the *space* from him. There you have it in a nutshell. Honestly, I think every dumpee KNOWS this, deep down. Problem is, their logic has been buried by layers of emotions, and they fool themselves into thinking that the dumper is actually wanting them to contact, beg, plead, etc. We've all read the rationalizations and excuses a thousand times. But anyone who's ever rejected anyone knows that when the dumpee comes back for more, their esteem in the dumper's eyes is reduced even more.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 No no no. That's bad. "I'll make contigency plans?" That's basically telling his ex that "all my plans hang on the balance of your every word." Not good. What he needs to do is tell her in a short sentence or two that he's done with her game. Period. If she wants to beat around the bush and play him like a fiddle, then only HE can prevent that by putting his foot down. He has kids. They should be his priority. Not this silly, game-playing little girl. LOL naw you got it twisted cali. I mean contingency plans with another chick!!! not pining after her. hell no , aint no man that was dumped should be pining after a chick!!! not in my book. Also you right he should be focused on his kids. I didnt even know he had kids!
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