DollWelch Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 When I thought the interaction between my good male friend and I was going marvelously well, I receive a rather shocking utter of words from him. I really am in shock, simply because I would have never expected that he'd confess such a thing to me -and he wasn't embarrassed at all about it. I was talking to him a couple of days ago about seemingly normal things, when he said to me in the middle of the conversation: "I had a crush on you for a long time". Not only that but also: "You are a special person" -and "You're an important part of my life". The last 2 phrases I only really knew about them a couple of weeks ago. So, I'm still trying to adjust to all this -these compliments, if you will. I don't understand. I mean, I don't know what he means by "had". Does that mean he used to have a crush, but no longer does? I don't know what to do. Should I: (1) Try to salvage whatever is left of this relationship/friendship? Try to do damage control? (2) Back off for a period of time? OR (3) Continue to be my normal self? Feedback would be appreciated.
zaphodb2002 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 They guy likes you. Guys don't say things like that if the crush is past tense. Don't, don't, don't, back off. That sucks for a guy. He was man enough to put his feelings out there, talk to him about it! If you guys are friends, you should be able to be open and honest about stuff. If you're not interested, let him know. You don't say you're not, but you sound like that's the way you're leaning. Sure, it may be awkward, but it's way better to get rejected than to not know. And if you're friends, you'll recover. Might not kill you to give the guy a chance though, ya know. If you're already close, you clearly like being around him. =)
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I was thinking more along the lines that it USED to be a crush, but it has developed into something deeper. Just keep being you - it seems to be working.
colosseum Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Don't, don't, don't, back off. That sucks for a guy. He was man enough to put his feelings out there, talk to him about it! Amen to that. Does suck. Well, assuming you're not interested, just let him know how you feel. Don't know how strong your friendship is, but I'd say don't put your $ on being 100% the way things were. Expect him to act differently fo-sho. Unless he's REALLY nice and/or still willing to work 2 win u over.
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