xerxes Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I don't ever post on forums. Usually just read them out of bordom at work, etc. but I want to say thanks to all out there who have posted about the No Contact concept. Man it's hard..and I miss her. Recently I initiated a NC relationship with my best friend of 5 years who I fell in love with. I never hid it or denied it...I told her directly a few years ago and made a point to never let her forget it. For whatever reason we both dated others a little, but mostly stayed single and spent all of our time together. For all intents and purposes we were "dating" although we never called it that. Obviously this situation got old for me and I told gave her the "all or none" option. She wanted to continue our co-dependent, unhealthy relationship. I left her and haven't called her since. There has been SOME email communications dealing with money-owed and closing our joint account, etc. but I've kept it strictly "business". It's been about a month now. I have my good days and bad. The hardest part is keeping away from her on weekends. We have all the same friends, but some have recently noticed my disappearence and made a point to hang out away from her. Also, it's been hard transitioning from the standpoint of "she'll realize how much she misses me" to "I'll be better off without her." AND it's hard to lose our excellent NBA season ticket seats...but that's her loss too. I know I have a long way to go. Thanks again to all. I'll try and keep posting on progress...no where to go but up, right?
Bleeve Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Also, it's been hard transitioning from the standpoint of "she'll realize how much she misses me" to "I'll be better off without her." That is where I am at now I know I have a long way to go. Thanks again to all. I'll try and keep posting on progress...no where to go but up, right? That is right!
confusedcookie Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 good for you!!!! i'm still stuck in the "he'll soon realize how much he misses me" stage, where we've agreed that after one month of NC to discuss things further (whether to break up break up or get back together). I've pretty much prepared the "let's go our differing ways" speech because i feel that our differences in culture will be too hard to continue on and i feel that he's already lost interest in me from his actions, but he says he still loves me and has an excuse for every "action" that i believe signifies he doesn't love me. i don't know if i'm being uptight about some of the issues, or if he really means what he says. but having all said that, i keep imagining in my head that once i tell him we should break up, he'll persuade me to get back together, and i know if he does that, i will most definitely give in and trust him that he still loves me, and give him a second chance. i swear, the first few days of NC, and when the relationship does not have a concrete yes or no, it is the most painful. sigh!!!!
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