ryanernieball Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 So me and my ex girlfriend were together for 8 months, 6 months being an LDR. We broke up only because the distance was becoming to much of a stressor since we never saw eachother being countries apart. But, now we both have a month later admitted that we still have feelings for eachother and miss eachother. We could get back in an LDR, but we both think it might not be the best idea since we will not be able to see eachother for along time. In a year or so we will finally be living close to eachother. Is it possible for us to get back together then when we will be able to have a normal relationship? I know that alot of people say if it didn't work the first time then it won't the second, but are problem was really the distance, and that will not be a problem anymore. Right now we are both still friends and we talk alot still. Would it be better if we stayed friends but just didn't talk as much? I am scared that if we become to comfortable as friends then we will end up just being friends when we are finally close to eachother. Any help is greatly appreciated! Thanks
Island Girl Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 If you are going to live near each other in a year then I see no reason why you couldn't get back together at that point - unless either of you has met another by then. As far as being friends - there is no harm in that - I just wouldn't share dating stories and the like. Not that you should keep secrets. But details will do you no good. That is just pain and angst for nothing. Perhaps you might go LD closer to the time when you will live near each other - six months or so before. You will then have an end to the distance in mind and that reunion will be fantastic to say the least!
Author ryanernieball Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Yea well we are definetly staying friends for now and there is no bad feelings between us, since distance is really the only reason we are not together. I guess I am also scared of us changing too much in this time we will not be together. I have heard people say that people change and then you don't want eachother. But I was also thinking even if someone changes a little, why is it a big deal? Couldn't change be good? Or you could adapt to it? I'm sure that if someone changes a little they are still mostly who they were before.
Island Girl Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Yea well we are definetly staying friends for now and there is no bad feelings between us, since distance is really the only reason we are not together. That is a benefit in your relationship that not many have. I guess I am also scared of us changing too much in this time we will not be together. I have heard people say that people change and then you don't want eachother. But I was also thinking even if someone changes a little, why is it a big deal? Couldn't change be good? Or you could adapt to it? I'm sure that if someone changes a little they are still mostly who they were before. People can change. It depends upon the people involved if it is adaptable or not. Change can be good. I doubt she'll change very much within a year - and you will be in communication anyway so I wouldn't worry so much about that.
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