gopher Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Trying to not over-write this... 2nd date tonight...first one ended with a little hug... Dinner, fun conversation, made plans for date 3 next week... Walked her to car, cold outside....said goodbye and went to kiss her, but she gave me a full body hug instead...I kiss her cheek... After, talked for a bit , she said she felt awkward because she hadn't dated in a while...told her I understood, she then kissed me... I told her I wanted to be respectful, she said she needed to be friends first and go slow.... I'm out of sorts a bit, not sure if I blew it with the kissing thing. On the other hand, I have enough female friends already and I've been the "transitional" guy back to dating for a few women lately...seems like this may just be me banging my head against the wall again... I find myself wishing I had just hugged her..
Dawn26 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Hmm.....I don't think this was pity a kiss. Who in the world would do that anyway?? It sounds like she "may" like you, and it also sounds like she's broken. Give her time and take your time with anything new you want to introduce to the relationship.
sand26 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Trying to not over-write this... 2nd date tonight...first one ended with a little hug... Dinner, fun conversation, made plans for date 3 next week... Walked her to car, cold outside....said goodbye and went to kiss her, but she gave me a full body hug instead...I kiss her cheek... After, talked for a bit , she said she felt awkward because she hadn't dated in a while...told her I understood, she then kissed me... I told her I wanted to be respectful, she said she needed to be friends first and go slow.... I'm out of sorts a bit, not sure if I blew it with the kissing thing. On the other hand, I have enough female friends already and I've been the "transitional" guy back to dating for a few women lately...seems like this may just be me banging my head against the wall again... I find myself wishing I had just hugged her.. It is sweet, don't regret it. She kissed you so that you would know she is interested because she wants to go slow, but doesn't want to blow her chance at being with you. I think this is cool and you should be content, don't regret the kiss, I just wouldn't expect it too much in the beginning; she seems fragile. good luck the mfk
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 It doesn't sound like a pity kiss to me. Sounds like her initial reaction was a hug because she's scared from past hurts. After talking to you a bit more, sounds like she realized that a kiss would be nice and decided to take that risk. I hope you're not just a transition guy and this works out. Let her set the pace for the most part, but every once in awhile shake things up or things might possibly get stuck and go no where because of her own fears.
Author gopher Posted March 2, 2009 Author Posted March 2, 2009 Thanks all...I agree with you that she be broken and need some time to get more comfortable with me. We had a great conversation over dinner....so I feel like we have great chemistry and would be good together. I'm going to wait a day, and call her tomorrow...
goldencloud Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Hey, I don't think its a pity kiss at all. Honestly it just seems like she's had a bad experience in the past and just wants to make sure she doesn't repeat it thus the taking it slow part. She kissed you, she obviously does feel enough for you. Go with it, and see how it goes and good luck
tanbark813 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 Like others have said, don't worry about it. You run a bigger risk by not making a move at all than you do by making a move before she's ready.
Author gopher Posted March 3, 2009 Author Posted March 3, 2009 Thanks....I agree about less being more....on a positive note she left me a voicemail today thanking me for a nice time and giving me her home phone number( I already had her cell and work numbers)....
collegekid491 Posted March 3, 2009 Posted March 3, 2009 Homer Simpson once said, 'Sweet pitty, where would my love life be without it!' Just had to share that. Here's the problem most guys have, they over think stuff so much that it fulfills exactly what they were afraid of. It's alright to have doubts, but you have no control over what goes through her mind, if she wants to think something she will. Just simply do your best, give what you can, and if it doesn't work out then.... NEXT!
Author gopher Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Homer Simpson once said, 'Sweet pitty, where would my love life be without it!' Just had to share that. Here's the problem most guys have, they over think stuff so much that it fulfills exactly what they were afraid of. It's alright to have doubts, but you have no control over what goes through her mind, if she wants to think something she will. Just simply do your best, give what you can, and if it doesn't work out then.... NEXT! Thanks for the great advice.....we had 4 dates and it's been like pulling teeth to get much communication from her. She never calls me unless I've called her....even then, I'd get a call back 2 days later, never the same day. At first I thought she was shy, hadn't dated in while and I kept making excuses for her in my mind.It took me a while to get, but I realized that she's just not that in to me. It's a relief really....and it's great to be in a place where I can say that. So, on to the next one!!!...In the meantime I'm just living my life and loving it.
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