drbobbo Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 So after a 5 year relationship my ex wanted to meet up after 2 months but we couldnt find a time we were both free. so she said maybe in a few months. Its now been 5 months She accidentally called me a few weeks back while I was on holiday. I got back yesterday, got a bit drunk and just sent her a friendly text saying I didnt answer her call because I was out the country. We exchanged a few causual texts and she ended it saying 'hope your well' and I said 'THanks, you know my number if you need anything'. Now Ive not heard from her at all. I dont get it, I thought she said she wanted to be friends? Is she well and truely over me? Do I mean that little that shes not bothered about talking to me? Im guessing texting again is a big no no
Author drbobbo Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Ive been thinking maybe I need closure. Ive been tempted to ask her if she ended it so abruptly because there was another guy?
Artu Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 Talk to her straight and ask her about her thoughts and feelings about your relationship . After 5 years of a relationship you should have known her better ...
BCCA Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I dont get it, I thought she said she wanted to be friends? Oh she did, just long enough to not feel guilty and find someone else. Trust me, if she had nothing else going on, she would gladly waste your time hanging out. But it WOULD be just that - an utter waste. 'Friends' is BS, my friend. Its just a nice way of saying 'dont hate me for dumping you'. As soon as she doesnt feel so bad about it, she could care less about being your friend, and if you think shes going to be there for you when you need it - dont count on it! You have closure, you just dont like it. Its over, thats it, end of the road. Dont call or text her again, period, and furthermore, dont answer her, either. Its the only way to move on, NO CONTACT. Good luck, I know it sucks.
Butterfly01 Posted March 2, 2009 Posted March 2, 2009 I agree with BCCA, being friends with an ex does not work. I tried -- my ex said he wanted to stay friends. What happened was: a) I completely lost all my self respect by constantly contacting him b) There was no magic "closure" -- it just made my pain last longer staying in contact with him c) We spoke occaisionally until he started dating (a few weeks after we broke up) and then he barely spoke to me Your gf probably just had an attack of conscience and suggested you meet, obviously she has has changed her mind. I feel for you -- it does hurt -- a lot -- that they can just completely cut you out ouf their life so easily, and it will take you a while to come to terms with that, and going NC is the only way to go.
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